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Lying DH faked Prelonged my daughter illness need advise

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Katebear1 · 08/03/2019 01:37

Firstly I’ll start by explaining my daughter was poorly when she was born early we very nearly lost her but after a stint in neonatal she recovered really well , months later I had discovered my husbands business was struggling financial since before my DD birth (he’s didn’t want me to have added worry)and from reading his text discovered he was using the story of our daughter still being in hospital this 4 months later so people would give him more time to get things sorted ... it makes me feel sick I will be clear people had been chasing him since the week before our DD was born and they had finally said you must still be in hospital etc but he never denied it just let them believe it to be true even after one suggesting he must be giving bone marrow still no denial . I really loved him he’s know he’s made a terrible mistake and has explained that the finiancal situation would of bankrupt us if not but now 6 months on and I’m still so angry I can’t look at him in that why anymore do I walk away with my 2 children ( he’s a amazing dad and has been a amazing husband not always been 100% honest about one part of his life but very loving) ... is there anyway back from this do you think ? I’ve not spoke to anyone but him about it as I feel ashamed of his actions please him me . I can’t help but feel that this lie is like tempting fate and will cause my DD to one day become ill and need bone marrow herself

OP posts:
NotTheFordType · 08/03/2019 11:41

He's a compulsive liar. Fuck him off. You'll never be able to trust what he tells you, so what's the point?

greendale17 · 08/03/2019 11:45

Yeah you're right OP, a caring husband would have expected you to deal with a bankruptcy as well as having a sick daughter. And now karma is out to get you Hmm

^This

NWQM · 08/03/2019 12:11

It sounds as if relationship therapy could help. If you decide you can move forward great but if not then you would be able to create the new relationship that you will need.

I'm not sure that I could stay in the marriage. He has told lies repeatedly too you. As you have children together though you will end up continuing to have some form of relationship even if very remote.

Katebear1 · 13/03/2019 09:31

Thank you for all the help & advise - I’ve took time to really think why I’m I so angry about this and I feel it’s because I saved our DD life I went in and made sure they did something and with all this a felt that my DH was taking the credit in a very weird way to these strangers ( to me anyway) his customers. I try to think of it if I never seen the phone I would never of known as these people have and would never be in my life but still 🤦‍♀️!!

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ravenmum · 13/03/2019 09:46

I can’t help but feel that this lie is like tempting fate and will cause my DD to one day become ill and need bone marrow herself
When I get into this kind of superstitious thinking it usually means I'm heading towards depression. Are you getting help yourself at the moment?

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