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Stuck in a black hole

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Pleasehelpmelllb · 07/03/2019 22:28

My partner is so abusive, physically, mentally and emotional to me and my 4 children, only 1 child is his atm she’s a baby, I hate them and I want to get away from them but he’s told me if I go he will find me and kill me. He’s told me his mum is going to take the baby away from me and If I try to get her back they will fight me and get the most expensive solicitor to make sure I don’t see her again.
When I was pregnant he got a lot worse regularly hit me tried to push me down the stairs saying he wanted to kill me and the f***g thing inside me. His mum is aware of what he does but she doesn’t care.
If I was to call the police they will deny it,
I have a diary and pictures of damage to the house, how I prove he’s done it? How can I prove they control me? His mum wants my daughter for the day I said no he kicked off saying nasty things about me and my family and I’ve been told she’s going wether I like it or not!!
Someone please help

OP posts:
RugbyRugby · 08/03/2019 00:03

If he is violent towards you, you can get a court order that will protect you. He may say he'll find you and kill you, but probably that is just an abuser's trashy bravado talk. Even if it's not, you can get a court order with a police power of arrest to protect you and your children.

The first step is getting help. Do you have friends? Your mum? Can they help you get advice from a lawyer? If not Women's Aid or similar charities (Citizens Advice, domestic violence charities) can help.

There will be others here with more experience and better advice.

The main thing is do not panic as you can get out and you can get support to protect you and your children.

RugbyRugby · 08/03/2019 00:05

I would ask MN to maybe change the title of your thread as it sounds like it's about depression but it's actually about seeking help to leave an abuser

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