Hi all, how the hell do I move on from my ex partner?
My relationships in brief....
Was married for 25 yrs was with him from age 18. We parted mutual, though I instigated it.
Next relationship was long distance, 5 hours drive, lasted 2 yrs, I ended it, basically neither of us was prepared to move.
Went on dating sites, met up with 2 locals, no spark, but had loads of nice chats, but found majority of guys only wanted sex, I'm quite old fashioned in that I never have sex until I really get to know a person.
My 3rd relationship is the one I'm struggling to get over and move on.
We met in 2013 as we worked with each other. He was very flirty and chatty, so after a few months we arranged to meet for a drink.
We had a fab time, kept seeing each other for about a month, but on xmas day, I picked him up, as he couldn't drive, we did everything apart from having sex, next thing he's shaking his head and telling me" that was wrong" next day he txt to say it's over as he's still in love with his ex.
I can't describe how that made me feel😢
Time passes by, seeing him in work was horrible, but in the June he asked to see me to apologise.
I picked him up, he said his head was now clear and wanted to try again, to which I agreed(like a fool)
Only for it to last 2 weeks, in that 2 weeks we had lots of kisses etc, but not all the way, he cried when he told me he had to end it as his ex was leaving her fella to be with him.
Again I was angry and upset.
I actually had councilling which helped.
Time passes by and yet again in 2015 he kept being flirty and told me that he and his ex had split for good and he'd make it up to me.
You're probably gonna guess.... yep! I went back to him, I just fancied the pants off him, always had, good looks, fit and tattoos which looked great on him, so we got together yet again.
Had a fab 2 years together, but the last 6 months of the relationship was going downhill.i had a chat and he blamed me being distant, which wasn't the case, he was constantly on Facebook on his phone, always over my house, practically lived there, took me for granted, I'd have to drive us everywhere, had to do things he liked and got me a bit rattled as he was like a split personality at times and would walk out without saying a word.
So by September I'd had enough and told him it's over, he looked happy and agreed it had run its course.
But the thing that's bugging me, after I finished it, we did the Cardiff half, stayed over in hotel.
He took me to a gig end of October, he bought me birthday pressie and invited me to his flat November. Then he went to Cyprus by himself, came back, a week later, he's seeing someone I worked with😳 He's still with her to this day, they moved in together after 2 months. I'm so upset and angry! Especially as he's always slagging ppl off for doing exactly what he's done
My question is... why can't I move on?? He's constantly in my head, as well as his g/f
I've even moved away as I couldn't cope in work, luckily I got a transfer.
Any help would be welcomed, but I do feel better just for writing this lol!