Husband left me while pregnant

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Just that really, I’m not bothered in all honesty, I’ve had enough of his emotional abuse to last me a lifetime. The constant stonewalling, contempt and arrogant defensive attitude I had to put up with. The lying, the woe is me the world is against me crap every fucking day. I’m glad he’s gone, good fucking riddance.

My only problem is I’m pregnant, I’m due June 1st and I’ve no one to have my older kids (8 and 2) whilst I go into the hospital. I’m NC with my family and only have one friend who lives hours away and my next door neighbour is a 70 odd year old bloke.

Home birth is out due to health conditions I have so what now? Please tell me someone has a fab idea they’d like to share? I’m scared and desperate.

@Canthearthroughmyglasses and @Bbang these are both amazing suggestions thank you! I never even considered women’s aid or the possibility of an overnight nanny.

Thanks so much it’s really helps more than you know, I’m not thinking very clearly right now! X

If nothing else works ask if you can be induced at a certain date and arrange childcare (the one friend or paid help) for those days.

I was you. I'm also a midwife. I had my 3rd baby when my knob of a husband left during the pregnancy. I contacted a freind who had a 16 year old niece. I paid her for some babysitting so I could just go to the cinema or see a friend (none of my friends could commit to helping and my divorced parents refused and both booked seperate holidays during the week I was most likely to give birth - and did). She started babysitting in the feb and I was due in June.
By the time I was due the other 2 were very used to her and I was more than confident in leaving them with her for the 2 days required. I also made sure my 2 year old was goingto nursery so she had some respite during that time.
You don't have to say on here, but you may be entitled to 2 year funding now as your husband has left and you are on a lower income due to maternity leave. I also claimed some extra costs through tax credits (but will be UC now).
Hope that helps a little.

So glad you are feeling a little more positive!

The PP had a good idea about the babysitter, look on babysitter.com and see if you can find someone there (maybe someone studying to be a nanny/preschool teacher etc if you are concerned about a stranger Looking after the children.