Had to name change as he knows my username. I've been with DP for a couple of years. In his own words his exW almost forced him to marry her. They had children and she felt bad that she was the only one that didn't have the same surname as the rest of the family. He's mentioned he really never wanted to marry her but thought it was the right thing to do. He's said I'm the only person he's actually wanted to marry and spend the rest of his life with. We've talked about getting married a couple of times, always with the idea that we'd do it. I've never been too pushy because my exH was awful with the division of assets and it's not something I want to go through ever again if possible. I'm pregnant and we're both delighted we both really want this baby and we're sure we'll give him/her the best life we can. I'm not very fussed about getting married really, but because I have no-one left and had too many complications in my previous pregnancy I want to legalise for my DP to be my next of kin. It looks like getting the powers of attorney would cost the same as a registry's office wedding, so I'm thinking we might as well do that. I don't want him to feel forced to do it though. I'd like to have a "bigger" wedding (I've never had one) but I think the party can come later once baby is here.