Bit fed up and feel unsettled. Anyone else?

[PrincessWatermelon]

Not sure if relationships is the best place to post, as it’s about my relationship with life!! But you guys are generally very supportive.

Does anyone else feel just, a bit, off, quite often? It’s really hard to describe or put my finger on what’s wrong. I feel a bit unsettled or out of sink with how I ‘should’ be feeling. Sorry it's long.

I have nothing to complain about. Supportive DH, although he has a tendency to get anxious and he works hard so isn’t around as much as I’d like. But he’s a brilliant father and we are good team.

2 DCs who are good kids (6 and 4) and no real bother other than normal kid stuff.

I work PT (32 hours per week) and so am able to do some school runs and do most of the household stuff. It’s a professional role, so lots of responsibility and can be quite pressured when I’m at work.

I have a good family network and support. My mum is terminally ill, but that’s been the case for years, tbh.

So there is no logical reason to feel the way I do. I had counselling 6 months ago as my DH had been through a bad spell and my mum was diagnosed with brain tumours, so things felt crappy. But it’s settled down now.

I feel like I want to spend loads of money. Or eat loads - binge on cake or chocolate(but I’m careful not to as I’m low carbing) or drink tonnes (I do enjoy a few glasses at the weekend, or some weekday evenings). Or just stay in bed one day and say sod it all. Or book a crazy holiday.

I feel fed up of the mundane, day to day routine of always working hard, kids to childcare, clear up, etc. Not enough time for me, not enough time with my DH and not enough fun. Maybe I’m bored?

This seems all very navel gazing and I haven’t spoken to anyone about it. I’m aware there are a lot of people who have ‘real’ issues, and this is why I feel selfish even writing this. But I wanted to know if anyone could relate to this or have any suggestions.

Yes me! I think I'm bored. My life is ok, some big issues with DH's health, but, like you, that's been the case for a long time. I feel like having an affair (I won't) or, as you say, wanting to do something a little extreme.

I always just put it down to boredom, and fell cross with myself for not being blissfully happy with my lot. There are MUCH worse things than being bored!

I know exactly what you mean. Honestly, I think most people's lives are fairly mundane and the desire to disrupt it and do something crazy bubbles away under the surface. What I try and do is release it in different ways. A night out with friends. Going for a drive and turning up the music. Doing something new. Trying a new restaurant. It all helps.

When do you have fun time in your life? When do you and your husband have time together, just the two of you? Do you see your friends in the evening?

Can you plan a family holiday?

DH and I try and have a proper evening together a couple of times a month. Otherwise we may see friends or family together, or I catch up with a girlfriend in the evening. I play a social sport once a week, but that seem to be the only time I properly have to myself. Not sure about fun!!!

We have a family holiday planned in August (with my parents and sister too) and a weekend away in a few weeks with another sister. This is the first time we've gone away with others and certainly the weekend away was partially born of being bored! We plan on drinking a fair bit once the kids have gone to bed!!

Glad I'm not the only one. It's a strange feeling...

Stop pushing so hard on the door looking for happiness..........

It opens inwards.