Do I Still need counselling

[Sunshineandreign]

So I 've posted a fair bit over the past couple of years about the deterioration and eventual end of my marriage, the realisation of emotional abuse the rssulting anxiety and the need to go no contact.
Throughout this I was sat on a waiting list for counselling via nhs which has finally come through.

I can cope day to day now, I plan for my future but thoughts of him still dominate my life and handover of kids still cause me to spiral (but I have ways to curtail it- going for a run the second he is gone)

So my question is is this something worth going to counselling for? Can 6 sessions of counselling make a difference? Would it be better to just let the session go to someone else who is probably stuck in the loop of depression I was in 6 months ago where I couldn't leave the sofa?????

I think 6 sessions of counselling is better than no sessions of counselling - but that doesn't necessarily mean it would be enough, IYSWIM.

If you've been offered it, why not take it and see how you get on.

They may well extend beyond 6 or refer you to somewhere with "affordable" rates to continue.

You will most likely get 6 plus 6. For most 12 sessions are enough
You will be given handouts with weblinks and possibly a work sheet so you can work on your feelings at home . Is it CBT? If so there is a lot you can do at home to self treat ..get a good book on it for when your sessions end but i suggest your counsellor for recommendations

yes please go - they can increase it if need be - it will give you a better perspective on your current and future life and provide you with healthy mind skills you can pass on to your children.

Definitely go.
You've nothing to lose and you deserve to be heard.
If it's not working for you after 3 sessions then you can say you gave it a go but it wasn't for you.
But until you try it you just won't know.

can cope day to day now, I plan for my future but thoughts of him still dominate my life and handover of kids still cause me to spiral (but I have ways to curtail it- going for a run the second he is gone)

Life is more than “coping”. Well done for getting this far - but you sound fragile - look to build real strength from the sessions so that you can increase the emotional distance from him and live a better more fulfilling life looking forward for you and your children

Absolutely go. There could come a time in the future where you're not feeling as strong, and having done the the counselling you'll have a foundation to work from and coping strategies to help you.