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Original poster

Rebecca Flood - The Sun newspaper

81 replies

Begginngletter · 05/03/2019 23:07

Rebecca Flood - you picked up my post yesterday and you put it on your website.

You have taken the worst day of my life and made it 10000 times worse. Before you shared that, I was just about managing in this situation, now I am not.

I have emailed you and I have emailed your editors to beg you to remove it. You have ignored me.

I want to ask you here to please reconsider. Please show some compassion and don’t publicise this awful situation.

I am far from home and wanted to talk to some of my family about what has happened and now cannot, because I know some of them read that paper. They would be horrified that it had appeared there. I now feel completely alone in dealing with this.

Perhaps I was silly to put it on a public forum but I needed immediation help from people who didn’t know my family. Mumsnet always give you the option to remove such posts if you’re uncomfortable and I posted in the knowledge that I could do that somewhere down the line is needed.

You, on the other hand, have taken the worst thing I have ever been through and shared it irreversibly for the world to see.

If anyone is reading this and knows how I could escalate this, please let me know.

I realise this may draw even more attention to said story, but I am desperate for it to be removed before I tell my wider family what’s going on.

OP posts:
Nc1548 · 05/03/2019 23:36

You can try contacting ipso and asking for advice.

mrd · 05/03/2019 23:46

Sorry OP, it's also in the Daily Star, suggest you contact them too and see if they'll remove it.

ColeHawlins · 05/03/2019 23:50
Thanks

www.ipso.co.uk/complain/

LaughingCow99 · 06/03/2019 00:20

Rebecca Flood, what a horrible thing to do for your "craft". Christ, I couldn't live with myself putting someone's despair on a forum into article. People come to relationships on here for support!

Mumsnet: I think it is necessary to put up a warning from now on saying that threads put on the forum have been used by the tabloids and does the poster want to proceed.

I'm so sorry op. This is truly dreadful.

DramaAlpaca · 06/03/2019 00:25

I didn't see your thread & I have no advice but I'm sorry this has happened to you. There's no excuse for lazy 'journalism' like that.

AornisHades · 06/03/2019 00:30

I know people will say it's the chance you take but it is bloody cheap journalism and amoral.
You aren't the first and you won't be the last.
Hope things work out for you Flowers

meditrina · 06/03/2019 00:38

Lots of threads get lifted from here.

Once you have published something globally, there is nothing whatsoever that can prevent it being quoted and used in other publications.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I have also been quoted in other media (something inocuous, mercifully) but it was a wake up call.

It might be worth reporting your post to MNHQ so they know when a poster sees press actions as excessive. And get the version here (which might be more identifying than press selectively-quoted excerpts) deleted asap. (Copy any posts that were especially useful to you before that, though).

Original poster
Begginngletter · 06/03/2019 00:42

Oh god. The Star too? I cannot tell you what this is doing to my mental health.

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HawayMan · 06/03/2019 00:45

I'm so sorry op Sad

I will email them too. Maybe if enough of us do it, they'll remove it?

In the meantime, you can ask Mumsnet to remove the original thread, if that's any help?

MissLadyM · 06/03/2019 00:45

Oh no! What happened? I'll troll the shit out of them!

jcmayj · 06/03/2019 00:48

I'm so sorry OP. I saw your original thread today Sad

It's horrible that the press picked it up

Original poster
Begginngletter · 06/03/2019 00:49

I thought the thread had been removed by mumsnet already?

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PissOffPeppa · 06/03/2019 00:49

Oh OP Flowers

My friend recently had a very personal story lifted by the tabloids from her own site. They didn’t bother to check with her so they didn’t know she’d had a life-changing, near-fatal medical emergency that week. While trying to recover, she was inundated with awful messages on her social media from people who’d read the (unrelated) viral article.

She complained directly to the journalists- I think she messaged them on Twitter- and they immediately offered to take down the post and donate to a charity based around her medical trauma.

This was The Sun and The Mirror. I’m not sure which paper it was for you but it might be worth seeing if you can find Rebecca on Twitter and messaging her there (or getting someone else to do it for you if you’re worried about being identified)

AornisHades · 06/03/2019 00:50

If it's the thread I think it is then it went earlier today after the first paper picked it up.

berkshirecat · 06/03/2019 00:53

I've been in a similar situation. Sounds silly but today's news is quickly forgotten about. The blessing is you are anonymous. Everything will be fine. If you want more advice please feel free to PM me - there's stuff I wouldn't want to say online. But you'll be ok; promise!

ChessIsASport · 06/03/2019 01:10

Her Twitter is @thebeccaflood I think. I’m so sorry you are going through such a hard time.
It’s sad that people can’t come here for support any more.

RugbyRugby · 06/03/2019 01:15

Don't know your story but if you are looking for help to deal with a privacy/internet media issue, would recommend:

tinyurl.com/y37ujjq9

She helped a friend of a friend deal with a traumatic social media issue (getting personal photos of a traumatic event off the internet) and did it for free to help them out in a terrible situation.

Original poster
Begginngletter · 06/03/2019 01:47

Thank you so much Rugby. And thanks everyone for your support.

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forumdonkey · 06/03/2019 07:07

Hi OP, hope you're okay. These gutter rats are scum.

HelenMummyof2 · 06/03/2019 07:16

So sorry this has happened Op. I am disgusted the media have chosen to publish this, absolute scum.
Stay strong and Thanksfor you.

Beaverhausen · 06/03/2019 07:18

So sorry this has been done op. Gutter trash can not spell much less write their own articles. So they come into mumsnet and steal stories from woman who are going through some of the worst times of their lives.

Original poster
Begginngletter · 06/03/2019 07:45

Thanks. Have emailed The Sun and The Star, plus IPSO. I am hoping someone somewhere takes pity as this is basically a time bomb otherwise.

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Original poster
Begginngletter · 06/03/2019 07:45

The worst thing is I could honestly cope with the situation if it weren't for this.

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CountessVonBoobs · 06/03/2019 07:49

Rebecca Flood, you have cause to be really fucking ashamed of yourself. Is this what you wanted to be doing as your job? Making it so there is no space where people can safely and anonymously ask for help with deeply private pain? Working for totally amoral employers who would throw a toddler under a bus if they could get away with it and sell more advertising space?

Rebecca Flood, your name is going to be on the internet attached to what you've done too.

BlytheofWindyWillows · 06/03/2019 07:52

I remember your thread OP. I'm really sorry this has happened to you.

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