Loneliness in a new town

[els1789]

It's hard to say this but I recently moved in with my boyfriend, in a new town and I'm struggling. The first few niggles of living together have now passed and I am enjoying being around my best friend and experiencing this new adventure. My problem is this feeling of loneliness I have been having. My boyfriend is a workaholic and a gymaholic. I still have to travel 3 hours a day to and from work. I get up at 5am and back about 5.30pm with no one there to greet me and my partner gets back at 7.30pm. By the time he has showered and had dinner we have about 30mins together before we go to bed. Then he spends around 2-3 hours in the gym every Sat and Sun. I enjoy the gym although I only need an hour or so there so I usually leave him to it. The problem is that after the gym he is then tired to do anything. I have spoken with him and he has said he will do anything I want him to after the gym but then it's always me wanting to do something different and him just following. I've moved away from my family and friends to start a new life with him, I just didn't realise it would be with him and the gym. We would like to start a family soon and I am hoping that meeting other mums will help me make new friends and not rely on him for plans, have you found this when becoming mums as I am struggling with being on my own here? X

Well, you'll be on your own but with a child - basically a single mum.
Why are you doing this to yourself.
You really are not getting anything from this relationship.
Please go back - nearer to work and family and stop doing all of this just for 'your man'!
Honestly, it's just not worth it.
The resentment will build when you are doing all the housework and baby rearing all on your own.
Time to cut and run now before you get in too deep!

There do seem to be a few red flags waving here.

Were you happy to move to a new place where you don't know anyone? Was it a new start or something that you were looking for?

Relocating is always hard, but if you made the move for the right reasons, you'll hopefully make some new friends soon.

Please don't try to "fill the gap" with a baby, as that can be pretty disastrous. You need to feel happy and settled before making decisions like that. Some people even get married first and try that for a couple of years before starting a family. Crazy, I know...

Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. It was of course spoken about before I moved in with it and it was decided by both of us that I move in with him and not the other way around. We were in a long distance relationship and I respected him and loved him enough to start somewhere new. I was more than happy to do it. Of course I don't believe a child will fill the gap, we have been planning a family for a while and I wanted to address this current feeling before we start a family, I don't believe a contract will change these feelings so I was after some helpful advice to try before just 'giving up'...crazy I know.