Pressure to forgive for baby’s sake!

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I’ve posted on here so many times about the grim situation I’m in..
So I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant, split up with DH and staying at my mums..
Reason is he’s a serial cheater with no remorse and we also discovered that he’d been sexually harassing my younger sister for nudes through fake accounts over the course of 2 years!!!
We’d only been married for 2 years as well!
He started to cheat when we were engaged but I forgave him thinking he was sorry but it never stopped.
He tells me he can’t help it and he doesn’t feel normal, doesn’t say sorry or doesn’t go to get help either, he’s a scumbag who pays for prostitutes!
He’s family seem more upset than he does and they’ve just come over to talk with my family telling me they’re really sorry and he won’t do it again etc etc
Of course none of this convinced me I know he won’t change and I couldn’t forgive a man who’s claimed he fancied my younger sister! GROSS.
My family were so against me getting back with him but now I feel like they’ve been slightly brain washed by his family, they’re telling me it won’t be easy having a child without his dad around..
But I know deep in my heart what he did is unacceptable and he doesn’t deserve me one bit! Especially as he has no remorse!

I’m only 23 I still have my whole life ahead of me, will there ever be the right one out there for me? His family claim there aren’t any decent men out there 😂
Will it be harder for a child to grow up with separated parents than to have unhappy parents living together ?

I'm sorry this happened. As a Turk myself, I can say that although what you say is true of some families, what you're experiencing is more a dysfunctional family issue than a Turkish family issue.

Having said that, your need to keep reminding your family that the man they're trying to pressure you to get back with cheated on you and sexually harrassed your sister, and that they should want to protect you both instead of trying to get you to reconcile.

You don't need that small pathetic excuse for man influencing your child.

Personally, I wouldn't worry about finding 'the right one' just yet. Work on getting your affairs in order, welcoming your baby and becoming independent. Once you have all of your ducks in a row you might find that you're happy being single. If not, at least being in a good head space will allow you to choose a better potential life partner.

I wish you the best of luck!

Thank you for all your supportive replies.
Luckily my parents aren’t putting any pressure on me they still feel really traumatized just like me. It’s something that’s shocked the whole family.
Nobody could ever forgive something like this it’s horrendous.
I have my family behind me supporting me all the way I don’t care what anybody else has to say :)
If he really wants a relationship with his child then he can if not that’s ok too.
Don’t care about his parents!