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Wedding night affair

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Pas1234 · 04/03/2019 20:17

After 6 years of marriage my OH has accused me of having sex on our wedding night. It took 6 years to raise the subject. Nothing happened. Do you think a divorce is inevitable or can the marriage be saved?

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MakeItAmazing · 04/03/2019 20:54

Echobelly · 04/03/2019 20:55

I'm not sure you're talking like you're under cross-examination in court, OP.

BlimeyCalmDown · 04/03/2019 20:57

what @gazelda and @AnyFucker said!

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/03/2019 20:59

When you say nothing happened, do you mean a) you purposefully met up with this person and nothing happened ie no snog etc, b) you purposefully met up with this person and something happpened between you but not sex, c) you bumped into this person, purely coincidental or d) the whole thing is a figment of your spouses imagination and the comings and goings of you and this person are a coincidence.

EdWinchester · 04/03/2019 21:02

the performance on the wedding night was not to the usual level

Seriously, who talks like this?

AutumnCrow · 04/03/2019 21:06

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PrestonsFlowers · 04/03/2019 21:07

Ed Winchester
I assumed that the op meant he didn't rise to the occasion. Too much drink possibly

Dyingforchocolate · 04/03/2019 21:08

So no sex but did something else happen?

Ellie56 · 04/03/2019 21:12

Drogosnextwife · 04/03/2019 21:15

OP come back. We need more details.
It definitely sounds like something happened, your phrasing is odd. I'm going to take a wild guess and say... You were the groom!
6 years is a long time to keep that one quiet!

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 04/03/2019 21:17

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ClosdesMouches · 04/03/2019 21:29

topcat2014 · 04/03/2019 21:32

all a bit "I did not have sex with that woman, Miss Lewinsky" to my mind.

Reccy2018 · 04/03/2019 21:32

The wording does super carefully chosen

Reccy2018 · 04/03/2019 21:32

Appear, not super

ShirleyPhallus · 04/03/2019 21:37

Does your 15yo daughter like kick boxing?

Or does she get drunk easily on 10 shots?

DontGoogleBlueWaffle · 04/03/2019 21:44

@romanov calm down my friend.

I just meant people saying oh he's playing mind games LTB etc. If it turns out the OP is a man how many people will instantly accuse him guilty...

ApolloandDaphne · 04/03/2019 21:55

And they have waited 6 years to ask about this? I suspect your OH wants an out and quickly.

C8H10N4O2 · 04/03/2019 21:58

Is this tomorrow's R4 Maths Puzzle?

SonataDentata · 04/03/2019 22:02

The wording of the thread title is also very interesting - wedding night “affair” rather than “accusation”, for example.

DelilahfromDenmark · 04/03/2019 22:24

@topcat2014
I think you’ll find the expression was “Ah did not have sexule relaytions with that woman” 🧐

Shadow93 · 04/03/2019 23:20

the reason given was that the performance on the wedding night was not up to the usual level dear lord op does he give you marks out of 10 for each encounter?!? I've got visions of you finishing in that star jump you see at the end of a gymnastics routine! On a more serious note I don't know about you but on my wedding night I was super freaking tired and pretty darn tipsy so no the sex wasn't great but in fairness it was the least memorable part of the day and we made up for it on the honeymoon I think you need to tell Mr turd monkey that he's about 6yrs too late on that accusation and that if he has issues with your sexual performance then he's welcome to sort himself out on that front! Just my two cents

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