Reporting abusuve DH/carer as a vulnerable adult.

[SylvieSos]

I have started to think that my DH, who is my carer, is being emotionally abusive.

Briefly, he always keeps the bank card on him, 'jokes' about my disability and chatacter flaws often (never been able to see anything funny about them) gets insanely jealous if it even looks like I might make a friend (he starts argument over mums from school messaging me, he says they'll take up all of my time and want me to go out with them constantly) accuses me of cheating when I rarely leave the house without him, and has forced me to do things I didn't want to do twice.

I have started to look online at things like the freedom program and women's aid (though it feels a bit much I've never been hit and he's nice
90% of the time) but I've seen that they will have to report to somebody if a 'vulnerable adult' reports abuse and its putting me off a bit.

I'm already concerned about my children being taken off me if dh does as he promises and tells them I won't be able to cope looking after them. I bloody would.

Could you record/film this kind of behaviour and upload somewhere safe to back up your complaint? This is abuse. I am glad that you are looking into the Freedom program and thinking of reporting it. Can you contact the bank and get your own online banking set up to make you more independent? If that is your bank card, then call to cancel it and arrange a securer way for you to handle/access your money. Hopefully, someone else has more practical advice and experience in this field. I wonder if you could alert adult social services and perhaps be assigned someone to monitor your caring?

What things did he make you do, OP?

He doesn't sound very nice.

I'm already concerned about my children being taken off me if dh does as he promises and tells them I won't be able to cope looking after them. I bloody would.

SS will see straight through that.

You'll probably want a disability assessment anyway.

But absolutely do not worry about his threats. Abusers commonly use the "you'll lose the children" line as a control tactic.