What’s it called when someone makes it all about them?

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A friend/acquaintance - she openly discusses that she suffers with her mental health and is happily getting well. But everything is about her somehow, if there’s anything emotional attached. What is that?

For example: child at school diagnosed with a quite serious eye complaint. Friend says that she has been worried about DDs eyes for a while too and she totally understands how other parent feels, then starts to cry, then parent of visually impaired child ends up comforting HER.

And more recently, the sudden unexpected death of a friend of another parent. Parent is of course, devastated. EmotionalWoman has loose connection to the area the dead friend came from but didn’t know them and had never met them. But cries anyway. Bereaved woman ends up comforting EmotionalWoman.

Same pattern over and over. What’s it called?

Victim narcissist or victim mentality.

Solipsism

Emotional Vampire.

Narcissist.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) sadly more than a few of those kinds around, best thing to do is ignore them. If they hijack the conversation, just bring it back to the original point/person. Be polite and civil, but not give them the attention, sounds harsh, but the only thing that keeps your sanity.

Merailing to be modern, it's infuriating to encounter, zero tolerance for it.

Thankyou. I’ve googled descriptions from all of your posts and although there are similarities, there’s nothing that quite describes this weird thing she does - taking someone else’s emotions as her own.

I avoid her as far as I can - I’m left feeling oddly invaded whenever I’ve met her.

Or it could be called empathy, without proper judgement

Narcissism - guilty myself

I have learnt all about grief thiefs on here. Could it be that.

It’s called “run away, she needs professional help and will bleed you dry”

@crumbnugget You've just assigned someone with a personality disorder based on a few lines. That's ridiculous.

OP, it could be that she likes to make things all about her, it could be that she tries to empathise but seriously misjudges. Is she otherwise a nice person?

Emotional vampire

I haven't assigned anyone! it's the technical name for the disorder that the OP was describing. You are mis-assigning empathy IMO, but there you go. Good morning Mumsnet, lets not start bickering already, I haven't had my coffee break yet

You're no fun, crumbnugget!

Oh griefthief. I’ve never heard that before but it is perfect for a couple of people I know.

Grief Thief / narcissist. ...but isn't it something along the lines of Munchausen by proxy?? Or am I completely barking up the wrong tree??

Singlenotsingle I have had coffee and an eff off massive bun... caffeine and sugar levels back up to full blast.....I raring to go now

“Bibty” = Bringing it back to you

My mother,

Also known as MeMe.

Do you mean Maunshausens Syndrome?

Merailing. That’s brilliant