Age gap

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I'm 43 and met a bloke in the pub the other night - we had a lovely chat and swapped numbers. We spoke on the phone and arranged to meet up but during the conversation he mentioned he was 60 and I I'm a bit worried about the age gap. He mentioned his daughters and grandchildren ( one of his grandchildren is older than my child) My ex was ten years younger... and I've never dated an older man before. But we got on well and it was a nice easy conversation. Anyone dated an older man?

Yeah I asked about his age - he said I'm 55 and I said I'm sure you said you were 60 before. When we met it was my birthday, and I was using the I'm 27 line just for a joke and he said oh I'm nearer 60... so mystery solved. I just heard 60 I think... Regardless I'm just going to see what happens, I'm mid divorce so not looking for a husband or anything serious, I'm just going to enjoy meeting up for another date and see where it goes!

I have a couple of friends with quite big age differences between them and their DH. I can't say it seems to have worked out that well for them.

One is 61 and her DH is 82. She has moaned for a years about how she wants to go out and do things or go on holiday and he just doesn't. Now his health is failing and she is more or less his carer.

Just go for it :) My DH is 4 years younger, he was 17 when we first met and had an awful lot of comments from friends and family. 14 years later, a mortgage, marriage, DS and two dogs later, things couldn't be better.
Go out, and enjoy yourself, see how you get on and take it day by day :)

My ex was 20 years older than me.

Pros: less drama, he was over the going out getting pissed in town phase, secure income / careeer.

Against: grumpy bugger as he got older. The last year (he’s 60) really aged him dramatically. I figured I had maybe 10 more years sex life worh him ahead of me, I was resigned to being a young widow and cared. Very fixed in his ideas. Had done a lot of the things I still wanted to do - travel etc.

My boyfriend is 10 years older than me - not posed a problem yet.

My DP is 10 years older than me and it's absolutely nothing. Then again, I'm used to dating older men and we get on superbly. Personality trumps number.

I know 2 relationships that has 15 years and 12 year age gaps with the woman being the younger one. Both were a disaster

I am always pleasantly surprised on mn, to see how many agree gap relationships stand the test of time.

In my social and work circle, the majority haven't. Whether the man is older or the woman older. There seems to be a breaking point. If the man is older it's around 75. If the woman is older it seems to be around menopause.

Wow thanks to all for taking time to share. Went on a second date last night, still good company and enjoyed the evening... enjoying his company and not overthinking it!

Dated both older and much younger. It’s the chemistry that counts.

Yes you are right it is the chemistry which counts. This could be a lovely few dates or something more I'm not sure yet but it's fun goddamnit and there has not been a lot of fun recently! Thanks again to all who gave take time to share their thoughts!

I don’t think you can assume a man will require a carer in the future. My father is 80 and still relatively active. My husband’s uncle buried six wives. The last was 30 years younger than him. He was then in his early nineties! He buried her, too. His daughter ended up caring for him, he was well over 100 when he passed.

Well I thought I'd post a quick update on this sunny Good Friday. We are still meeting up every week and having fun, so I guess that's been nearly six weeks now. Still enjoying his company and he's offered to help with with some pesky DIY stuff I need to get done which is lovely. So far so good I guess!!

I have been in a relationship with a guy 15 years older than me for nearly a year. (I am 47 and he is 62) When we are together, it is great but, I have two teenage DCs. I do feel guilty as my DP is semi retired and his children have grown up, left home and his grandchildren are slightly younger than my children. His friends are off travelling whilst I am working and bringing up children. Although the relationship is brilliant... being at different stages in our lives can sometimes pose a challenge...

I’m glad you are still enjoying each other. My parents were married for 35 years and there was 25 years between them! My Dad also had me when he was 55 and my Mum was 30. He always said we all kept him young lol. A decent partner is more important than age, good luck.

Im 28 and my bf is 46. He acts and looks younger though. We both have kids and plan to have a couple more. Its not all bad.. I think older men are much more mature and respectful and more likely to want a stable relationship then their younger counterparts.

I started dating my husband when I was 20 and he was 36, 15 years later and an illness means he has aged considerably and I am still relatively young.
I do still love him but you never know what the future holds.... I wouldn't change things but would advise caution!

My partner’s 60 and I’m younger than you, we’ve been together for 6 years and we’re expecting our first child together.

That's very old to become a father.

Sandy, I think you’ll find that’s spelt ‘congratulations on your pregnancy’.