Long story short, I have been working with same co-worker for a few weeks. I work in a team of 90% men and have never had an office romance/never will, it’s just not me, certainly not with someone who is taken. There are a few other guys in the team and we have coffees and lunch breaks together often. A bit of banter etc.
Colleague in question is in a long-term relationship and has kids. I do find him attractive but consciously and subconsciously find myself being friendlier with the other guys, asking them more questions, laughing at their jokes, in an effort not to build a rapport with him as I’m paranoid my crush will come out! At the same time, I have noticed him looking at me once or twice, body language always fully turned towards me even when chatting to others, occasionally breaks personal space, brought me to some drinks and acted quite proprietary towards me (I overheard some others in the group saying I was very attractive) and could see him watching me etc. We don’t chat a great deal but he always seems quite interested in finding out whether I’m single.
Perhaps all this is nothing and FYI I’m nothing special, I perhaps fill a particular “type” (young, tanned, long dark hair) but not that great.
This may well all be in my head but I guess what I’m asking is what can I do. I feel like I do like him but know it can never go anywhere, yet feel oddly guilty. Conversely he may just be a huge sleaze. I will possibly work with him again and don’t want to encourage anything nor be odd around him.