Tinder advice!

[Sunshineandflipflops]

Hi, so I matched with someone on Tinder earlier and he messaged me. We have sent 9 messages back and forth...nothing very deep. He has just asked if we can move to WhatsApp or phone call and I’m a bit uneasy about it as I don’t feel we have established any kind of connection yet.
I am also chatting to another guy on a tinder since yesterday who I feel more of a connection with, which probably isn’t helping. What do I do/say?!

Just tell him you're happy with Tinder for now. If he doesn't like that, so what?

Thanks for replying. I’ve not really done Tinder before! I’ve sent this:

No need to apologise but I’m happy on here for now if that’s ok. I’d like to chat a bit more before I give my number out x

In those situations I say its my policy to only give my number out when I've met someone in person. Its a lie but they don't know that.

Just say no. For what it's worth I think it's usually because once you've met someone you like on Tinder , you kind of almost want to take them to one side to get to know them better (ie move away from the app) in a sort of online version of maybe taking someone to one side at a party to chat away from the crowd. That's how it was for DH and I on there anyway. I was also taking to another guy for about 8 weeks when DH and I were just starting out (sure he might have been too who knows)but yes i dont think its uncommon, but if you don't want to, just say no.

Just whatever your comfortable with! I used to match with people but when I looked further into it I wouldn't actually date them? Them I might be polite or not respond or unmatch but if I would actually like to meet them id accept WhatsApp etc (you can always block them!)

Bit stalker but I used to like getting them number, because I noticed that if you saved their number in tour phone, within 24 hours they would appear in your "people you may know" on Facebook! So you could nose further 🤦🏻‍♀️ majority of my dates lead to more than one date and a 6 month relationship, I don't miss it, but was all the usual feelings of dating rolled into one? Liked some, lost some, felt heartbroken by one, I guess eventually I broke the heart of the one I was in a relationship with! Eventually though I ended up with someone I met in my local and rest is history! Some people are complete tossers on there though, try not to let them get to you x

He says he has a mild form of dyslexia (which he spelt wrong, ironically) and that he doesn’t find messaging easy, hence wanting to chat. He asked again later on and said it would be easier for him but it was late by then and I was in bed.
His spelling is pretty poor, so I think he’s telling the truth but the English graduate in me is hoping he’s just not bad at spelling 😳

Is he local to you? Plenty of scammers on dating sites with poor English and are in a rush to get off of the dating site.

Within 20 or so miles.

Do what is comfortable for you. If you do give him your number, you can easily block him. I have lots of numbers in my block list now!!!

I think it’s more the thought of speaking to someone I haven’t met on the phone. Stupid really as it’s what people used to do but I’ve got so used to/comfortable with texting and stuff now that it seems like a huge thing!

No way! I'm dyslexic so what?! He's using this as an excuse. When I was on dating apps and naive some guys wanted to call me and a couple of times I agreed to it (even though I felt uncomfortable)
Basically it's a cheap shot for them to weigh up whether they can be bothered to give up their precious time to go on a date with you.
It's lazy and they're being judgmental.... Trust me Ive been there.
Don't waste your time

To be fair I'm dyslexic and find text message and social media exhausting, even when I try I can still come across in the wrong way or with glaring errors.

I know I am judged far less harshly in real life or over the phone.

Do love Snapchat though as it really suits the way I communicate.

I frequently cross post on here because it takes me so long to post.