Am I being unresonable

[Bigbluebear33]

My partner had been adding random woman on Facebook for a while. I spoke to him about how I felt he told me he would stop, I believed he would respect me but few months down the line I have realised he doing it again he cant explain why he adds them and he tells me to forget about it. I cant help feeling hurt and upset. Am I over reacting.

Yes, I think you are unreasonable to try to control who he adds on Facebook.

But I wouldn't say you would be unreasonable to leave him because you decided his choices made the two of you incompatible.

What do you mean by random? Doesn't he know them in real life? YANBU and this would upset me too.

He just adds women he doesn’t know? Why?

How does he find these "random" women?

I've added 'random' people before - they are players of a game I use and to work as a team we have to be friends so it looks random (I did have a real friend message as she was concerned that I had been hacked) but in reality these people from all around the world have no access to my profile as I have group settings but allow us to play z gamd together

He looks up womans profiles on Facebook and adds woman basically he finds attractive

He cant give me a reason for adding these random woman he said he just does it.

It’s for his wank bank.

Ffs - why stay with this tawdry man? He has zero respect for you!

I would not care as my partner chooses to be with me.

I would probably lose an ounce of respect for him though that he needs so much approval.

I would question in my mind his long term commitment.

I would definitely doubt his maturity if he was adding strangers.

He's just friending any attractive women he finds, and tells you that openly?
I hope that by "partner" you just mean a guy you've had a few dates with and are not very invested in.

Is he a teenager?

While I'd never try and control who my partner adds on Facebook I'd also struggle to find any man attractive who needs to sniff round other women on social media.

You sound incompatible, find someone who has better things to do with his time than be an online creep

We have been together for 2 year. We are both in our 30s, I have asked him if he rather be single than in a relationship but he is telling me he wants to be with me. On Facebook he will still carry on adding random woman as he thinks he is doing nothing wrong so do I just turn a blind eye to it and believe him that it's all innocent.

My ex husband added loads of women on fb ( 1223 friends!) Most of these were on a group chat ( private groups) sexting, pics and hooking up. How he found these groups I have no idea but they were extremely explicit I had screen shots of evidence for divorce. I am a bit concerned it may be happening here? I am sure a lot of women are quite careful about who they add on fb? . Either way you deserve better maybe if he acts single then let him be single. I with a lovely man now who was appalled when I told him about ex's letching and sexting. There are decent guys who will only have eyes for you? If it for material to get off too there are hundreds of images of nameless women on google why add women on fb?? 🍷🍷

He’s looking for a better option (sorry op) , for example , if you was adding a guy you didn’t know what would be the driver for this ? Answer is you found him attractive and are hoping to open up some form of communication .
It’s not controlling to say you are not happy with this , he is disrespectful, you’ve set a boundary and he doesn’t care . Time to walk , there are plenty of better men out there !

Dog with 10 dicks syndrome....

Pay particular attention to the posts from @Lefty1 and @yogagirl22

Dump him in the reject bin where he belongs OP before you're back on here 6 months pregnant and have hard evidence of cheating.

You can do so much better than this imbecile.

I am sorry but this would be the
End of my relationship I don't share I don't like to fell any less than I am !'

Why would you accept this ???

Would you recommend a friend did ?

You know why he does it, he knows why he does it and we know why he does it. Him denying knowing why he does it, just shows how much contempt he has for you and you accepting it, shows how much self respect your prepared to throw away.

This is who he is and what he thinks of you, for God’s sake, listen.

He says he adds them as there on his friends suggestions. But he is only picking a few out of them.
He just gets all upset with me when I do try talk to him about it. He says I shouldn't let random stranger get in between our relationship and he is doing nothing wrong and he doesn't find them attractive.

I believe he does find them attractive. I am so fed up with feeling I ain't good enough. Blaming myself. Yous have opened my eyes I shouldn't get treated like this. I appreciate all your comments