Is he interested?

[CanBobFixIt]

Hi,

I am aware I sound like a teenager wondering if he likes me, but this is someone I work with so I don't want to make things awkward if there's nothing there

There's kind of some mixed signals I think. We talk and get along well when I see him at work. He followed me on social media and said in his first message that he was glad to have found me on there. When he messages me he calls me love (as in 'thanks love', not a romantic love way), but that's the way he talks in person so I'm not reading anything into that. He keeps conversations going, asking questions and things but he doesn't initiate conversation by sending me messages first.

I think the not initiating messages probably means he's not interested? He works a different shift to me so I only see him if I'm in late/he's in early so I can't really casually ask him out for a drink after work or anything either.

Any thoughts please?

I really don't know.

Any flirting at all? Has he asked you (either directly or roundabout) if you're wth anyone? Are you certain he's not married/cohabiting?

Thanks for the reply ConfCall he has asked me if I've got a boyfriend before in a roundabout way, he's definitely not with anyone. Flirting kind of... he jokes around with me in a teasing kind of way and has replied to a message before with 'aww you've done that for me, cute'.

It's the not initiating anything which is confusing me. I haven't spoken to him for a few days now because I haven't sent a message, I've started conversations the last few times so was interested to see if he would but hes not done.

Still not sure!

The gentle joking and asking about a boyfriend ... very positive. The lack of message initiation isn't positive, although that doesn't mean that he's not pleased to receive your messages.

Given that you rarely overlap at work, and you're sure he's unattached, have you got anything to lose by asking him out? If he's a decent man he'd say no in a thoughtful way if he's uninterested.

Yeah I'm not sure either! Guess I'll just have to bite the bullet and ask him.