Relationship over - can't cry

[Curlysue2019]

My relationship ended before Christmas - he was verbally abusive and I left him.

I'm so hurt in can't tell you but I can't cry - I think it would help if I could but I just can't. It's like it's gone too deep or something.

I feel like it's with me all the time - I'm raw and exhausted. Why can't I cry? - it's like I'm carrying around all this grief without anyway of releasing it - can anyone advise me what might help?

That must be so hard for you.
Crying really does help.
Have you had any counselling?
You could contact Womens Aid and they could help point you in the right direction of a counsellor who specialised in dealing with abuse 'victims'
Might be worth a go?
Have you spoken at length to anyone about how you feel?
A close friend or family member.
A visit to the GP may also help.

I have been taking anti depressants for a while and I have a counsellor - she says grief takes many forms and that each person reacts differently

I want to start to heal though - I want to cry release sell the pent up hurt and move on

You're in shock. You will cry in time. Don't pressure yourself. Sadly it will come when you're daydreaming and a memory hits you. You're just dealing with it in a survival kind of way. Maybe you're relieved it's over too? Or maybe because he was so abusive you just can't get past the hate yet. I wouldn't pressure yourself. You've already been through enough so give yourself a break.

I found I did all my grieving toward the end of the marriage as I finally realised it wasn't ever going to work for me. When I told him I wanted a divorce, which we had discussed, and we separated, I had already done the grieving and wasn't upset at all. It happens that way sometimes. Different people feel things in a different way which doesn't always feature tears, and I'm sure you'll start feeling better in a few months.

I don't feel angry - I feel numb if I'm honest - and overwhelmingly tired.

He shouted at and in front of my child - that was the last straw. He had been verbally abusive to me - I was able to cry then - but not now. I cried during our last conversation - not since - not once.

I just feel numb