Partner works a lot! I’m left with the baby

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My partner works long hours and I hardly ever see him never mind our son who is 16 months old, I know he works to pay our bills and provide for us but I just feel so lonely and I’m always at home alone and have to put the baby to bed every night alone 🙁 I do have a go at him sometimes but what can he do? We need the money but I’m lonely what do I do? I chose to have a baby with him not all on my own ( he started this job after our son was born) am I being unreasonable????

You are a bit.

What about the weekends?

You are unfortunately..
What can be done, he's doing it for you all as a family..

I'm not judging because i have been (and still am) in the same boat and u keep quiet for a while until it bubbles over.

There are no suggestions really, just know it's not uncommon..
find an evening hobby maybe?

I suppose it depends what you mean by long hours. And does he have to do them, or does he choose to?
I feel your pain to be honest. We have a 5 year old, a 3 year old and a 7 week old and DH has been away Tues-Fri this week. He was promoted after the baby was born and it’s going to mean being away 3 nights a week at least. It’s tough, and I do feel a bit cheated as this is a new situation which has arisen since having the baby, that I wasn’t prepared for. But it is what it is! We’ve had periods before when he was away a lot, and just made sure we had a lot of quality time as a family and as a couple when he was around.
It’s hard work though.

He works 6 days a week including weekends he is only off on a Friday when I’m at work, he comes home most nights 8:30 I think I feel it more for the baby 🙁 I know there is nothing that can be done it just gets to me sometimes

I know what u mean.. u have to discuss it together and not have a go.. I'm sure it gets to him too.
Even though there isn't a lot that can be done you have to make the most of the little time u do get together..

i don't think you're being u
it's hard being with a baby/toddler all the time.
But just having him acknowledge your feelings is a massive help.
chin up and find some mates to share the dull bits x

That sounds really lonely, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable to find it tough.

Do you currently work? You might find you both had a better work/life balance if he could find a less intense job and if you went back to work (or upped your hours) to bridge the gap financially.

I’m self employed so what I earn can change on a daily basis his wages are basically what pays all our bills etc I can’t be guaranteed a decent wage every month but I think I’m going to look into getting a new job to help with the money situation and hopefully he won’t have to work all the time