Do I go back to him?

[NowWhat19]

Hi All,

First time posting here so please forgive me if I should post in a different area.

I’m a mum to my lovely daughter who is 5 months old, she was not planned but is so wanted and loved. Recently I left her father as from the day she was born he has done very little to help apart from when I’ve threatened to leave (things would the revert back within a week or so) and even then it was minimal. My ex and I didn’t live together before DDs birth, his choice as I had tried to discuss us buying together but he seemed to ignore. We had been in a relationship for 5 years of which 3 of those were long distance. There was also some history of him texting other women (boarding sexting) during our relationship.

Now he has begged me to come back to him, he told me that he will help out more around the flat and that he misses DD and I. I guess my question is do I take him back to see if I can make it work for my DD Or should I stay seperated?

He sounds like a complete waste of time to me. Don’t do it.

“No maintainance as yet”

That says everything

Nope, Don't do it!

I’ve had experience with this and he wouldn’t even lean forward to pick up the remote he would shout for me to come and pass it to him.

Don’t waste yours and your daughter’s time. She can have better male role models in her life that don’t make her believe to be female is to be subservient.

The question isn’t ‘should I go back?’ but ‘why the hell have I put up with his shit for so long’?

He knows you well enough to know that begging is all it takes because you’ve proven time and time again that you will accept his shit.

Come on OP, if you accept being a doormat some people will continue to treat you like one. If you really want the best for your daughter then be the strong role model she has growing up and running around after a grown arse man who doesn’t respect you isn’t how you do it.

You are not powerless but you’ve chosen to surrender your power voluntarily to this idiot.

@AgentJohnson, you’ve hit the nail right on the head. ExP knows I have a problem with guilt and knows just what to say in order to play on that I think. I’ve only just realised after seeing your comment that he has never really said sorry, for anything, it’s always been a push blame onto me.. I.e. why didn’t you communicate with me (which btw I do, but I’m not going to shout constantly) and admitting he needs to grow up. So taking some blame but also trying to push it onto me as well! Now I’m starting to wonder if I’ve been manipulated by a man child all along.

But you’re right, my DD needs a strong role model in her life!

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