DSS16 sleeping in same bedroom as DD7

[sunshiney78]

Hello. Was wondering what people think of this. My DD7 goes to her dad and partner’s house EOW. He co-ordinates the weekends to have his son, 16 there on the same weekend, and sees nothing wrong with him as DD7 sharing a bedroom.
I have suggested having them on alternate w/ends most of the time so that he can do age specific things with them; and so that DD doesn’t have to make a 3hr round trip with exh to fetch and drop his DS.

If he didn't coordinate the weekends, she would never see her half brother which would be a shame, surely?

I don't think them sharing a room full time would be great but every other weekend is more comparable to sharing when on holiday which surely lots of opposite sex siblings do?

I wouldn't even want my two children to share a room and they are only 2 years apart. Not for sinister reasons but for the sake of having one room in the house where they can each have some privacy, friends over, have it how they want it, etc.

I would not be letting my dd share with someone 9 years older than her, of the opposite sex...related or not.

This exact same thing has been posted before, if this is your first time then I'd search for that other post which is identical, read those responses too. No, it's not good for either child.

This is a hard NO.

At 16, he needs privacy and space. His hormones are all over the place and he will be in a sexualised mentality even unwittingly i.e wet dreams, porn on his phone his mates send him etc.

A 7 year old is too young to process any of that in a healthy way nor should she be exposed to it.

Even with innocent intentions, this sleeping arrangement is uncomfortable, inappropriate and should be reported to CSS so the Ex is warned to find a better solution because he is unlikely to listen to your concerns and although his son is probably a normal young man with no ill intentions towards your daughter, this arrangement doesn't safe guard her if he or any other male in that house is a predator.

I remember an almost identical thread from before. The ages of the kids and their sex was the same. Unless I'm confused, was the ExH staying at his new woman's place and they only had the one bedroom for the kids? Entirely possible I've mixed this up with another thread tho.

No, I was wrong. The other thread I was thinking of concerned an 11yo girl and 16yo boy but they weren't blood related

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3484983-to-object-to-an-11yr-old-girl-sharing-a-bedroom-with-a-16yr-old-boy?pg=2

I'm an adult and wouldn't care to share a room with my adult sister who I love and implicitly trust, more than once or twice a year.

Its not just abuse you have to think of its their comfort and privacy, it's their life, come on. It's not appropriate.

It’s not ideal but it wouldn’t bother me too much. Siblings share rooms all the time. Nothing sinister.
My 16 yr old shares with 8yr old. Would be great if they didn’t have to as they fight, but they’re used to it. I don’t know many kids who have a bedroom to themselves.