I’m not sure whether to end a relationship because it’s not meeting my emotional needs, or whether I need to just go with the flow and fulfil myself in areas out of my relationship:
I’m 40, divorced and have one DC7. I’ve been seeing someone for 10 months with a break in between when he said he couldn’t give me what I need in terms of time. And he then came back.
He is an introvert and has a very busy job, and his hobbies, independence and alone time are very important to him. He is 40, no DC, and never lived with a partner. I think he has ASD traits. We see each other every 7-10 days for an evening/night/breakfast. Daily text contact (not very affectionate from him, mostly affectionate from me), no phone calls.
On the other hand he is very affectionate when we meet, I have no doubts about fidelity, says he loves me, has introduced me to his friends and parents, takes me on dates and plans w/ends away. And recently insisted on helping me get a medical condition sorted & coming to specialist’s appointments. Hasn’t met my DC yet, but talks fondly of her & bought her gifts for Xmas & bday.
I get the feeling that lack of physical and emotional space makes him uncomfortable to an abnormal extent. I would love to eventually live with a partner, but I’m not sure about him. Are we just incompatible?