Is there any point in trying?

[MumCatx2]

Had a rocky 12 months with DP. We tried an open relationship, didn't work, i stopped. He yold me he wanted out in sept but i convinced him to actually try. So he stayed. I was on egg shells. He wanted me to be all mea culpa and sucking up to him but given he said yes etc i felt he was somewhat over-reacting. Anyway, he split with me today, i said fine and organised to view rentals. He came home tonight saying he wants therapy. I said we are either a couple trying, or i move out. He seems to want us to be living together but not as a couple. He gave me a hug saying 'friend hug' and i said 'f*ck that' and came to bed. I feel like his back and forth is shutting down my emotions but i need to stay invested and engaged for the kids. Help?!?!?!?@

I can't really work out what's going on - he's split with you twice, you persuaded him to try again the first time, does he want therapy for himself now ? Who says he wants to carry on living together?

Of course he wants to stay living together.
Cake and eat it - springs to mind.
What is the housing situation?
Rented or mortgaged?
Could you find somewhere else?
I'd be outta there to be honest.
He's fucking with your head big style.
He's keep you on the back burner as an 'option'
Don't ever be anyone's 'option'

Jesus, so there’s kids mixed up in this?

This relationship isn’t working and won’t work. You can face that and move forwards or you can remain locked in a pointless, painful cycle. Your call.

He's over it...and you will split again. You're going to have to end it because he doesn't see a future with you. It's rubbish but you're going to have to be mega strong and finish it yourself.

All this indecision is terribly stressful if he doesnt want to be with you he needs to move out - you cant live as friends.