Broken relationship of 5 & a half years with 16 month old

[Amilaw]

I write this whilst being heartbroken, my love, my soul mate, my bestfriend decided on Saturday he no longer wanted to be with anymore. This was completely out of the blue and not expected. He decided he can’t be with me because he’s whinges to much. He whinges I don’t do enough whilst working and bringing up our child I don’t understand. I do everything, the house is immaculate, I cook dinner every single night and don’t expect him to do much except take the bloody bins out. He had the easiest life.

I can’t imagine my future without him, I can’t picture my life without him in it. He will always be apart of my life because of our son. It just breaks my heart knowing we aren’t going to be an item again.

I keep having dark thoughts and unhappy thoughts and it panics me. I just don’t know what to do. Obviously don’t want little one to see my dad so putting a brave face on. It’s the bed time routine and then I’m alone.

I just don’t know how I can survive, I feel like someone had died. Will our little one be able to pick up any of this?

... how are you?

@Amilaw sorry you're going through this. There is nothing you can do other than try and carry on and knowing that things will get better eventually. Make sure you have support in real life. Tell friends and family who can give you and your DC comfort and support. You need to have people who you can go to and have a cry if you need. If this has come out of the blue it's likely that there is something else going on which you won't have been told about. It's hard but you have to remember that he is no longer your love or best friend.

Bloody hell! This lazy entitled f* was your soulmate. In time you’ll realise he was far from the labels you attributed to him but until then, keep yourself busy.

It sounds like he was a bad habit and him buggering off was the kindest thing he will ever do for you.

It may be hard to believe but you may be better off in the long run. I've hung on for years and it has not gotten better and the poor kids have had to go through the constant argueing between us for years. I wish I found away to leave years ago but had no support system so I tried to save us. Bottom line is if someone doesnt want to be with you or treats you badly your better off without them. Its who we thought they were that hurts the most.

He whinges I don’t do enough whilst working and bringing up our child I don’t understand. I do everything, the house is immaculate, I cook dinner every single night and don’t expect him to do much except take the bloody bins out. He had the easiest life. Sounds like you're well rid.

He just wants out for reasons of his own, and is looking for excuses. You have to harden your heart, OP. This man's no good.