NC for this. Hope that's ok.
Last summer I accepted a FB friend request from an old acquaintance. Within weeks we were chatting, flirting, sexting. He was dating somebody casually and so was I. My awful marriage had finally failed 12 months prior as had his.
I loved getting messages. Felt good. We became full-on, shared advice and confidences as well as sex talk. Ran into each other randomly at a wedding party a couple of months ago and kissed. Went back to online flirting and chat but I had developed feelings. He was still dating the "casual" woman but I investigatd her social media (he'd mentioned her first name at the party and I eventually found her) and she seemed pretty smitten, not casual, she tags/mentions him all the time and wrote a loving status on New Years Eve. He always said he likes her but didn't see a long term future with her. So I was concerned.
2 weeks ago I bit the bullet and asked if he was free for a coffee - gave three choices of afternoon. He said he couldn't make any and did not suggest an alternative. So, I had my answer. Fair enough. I half expected it.
I don't want to be an online fling indefinitely. I didn't want to throw my toys out of the pram and cut contact then (would look a bit foolish, straight after being rebuffed) so I've gritted my teeth and carried on flirting, sexting, chatting about family, music, sport, politics etc as we always have done. However, 2 weeks after being turned down it is now time to cut him out for my own sanity and out of respect to the woman he's seeing. He's made his choice. And let's face it, he's no prize.
How do I put it? I don't want to sound like a victim, don't want to be peevish or accusatory. Don't want to do a big dramatic "block". I just want to stop messages. Perhaps I should just be polite and cool, and let him get the hint but that prolongs the disappointment for me (I still have feelings). Any ideas? Thanks.