ex is refusing to give me anymore money for dd.

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and his reason is that I won't say thankyou, which I refuse to do. Apparently no man gives money for their children, and dd won't miss it it will be me that misses it.

To say that I'm angry is an understatement.
Obviously I spend the whole £200 a month on gin and shoes.

On a more serious note he is acting so bizare that I have real concerns that he wont return dd tomorrow.

Are you sure it would increase if you go to CMS? I think I recall getting £450 for my 2 and my ex was a high earner. That said he was self employed and used to pay himself the minimum to avid tax, however I still got the CMS to take his dividends in to account. However this seems to be about him not paying regularly and on time so then indeed you do need to go down that route. I feel awful for you, what a controlling way to treat you. Mine used to have to pay me spousal maintenance and every month it would turn up in my bank account in big bold letters, he hated paying it obviously. Resented paying it so much that he unilaterally reduced the court ordered child maintenance as well. In their warped minds they seem to think you have no right to the money and begrudge giving you it, forgetting it is for the benefit of their children. Mine went off and lived the single life, hardly ever seeing our sons,whilst I was left bringing up 2 children which I do not regret for a moment. You reap what you sow is what I say.

So is this a new development?

yes it's new. He's never been a brilliant Dad, but he's been ok.

When she was a newborn he thought it was ok to not give me a time when he was going to see her and just expect me to stay in waiting for him to turn up. But I put a stop to that.

He has been asking me to say thank you, and I have told him that wasn't going to happen.

Then this morning I woke up to a message saying he wasn't paying anymore, because I am a rude chav who won't thank him each time he transferes the money, and that last time he asked me to let him know that I had recived the money I just let him know that I had recived the money and not thanked him.

It's just bizare. Like talking to someone who just doesn't get life.

No I won't thank him, same as he wont thank me everytime I buy dd a pair of shoes, or feed her, or pay her childcare fees or any of the other million things I do everyday because I am her mother and thats my job.

He says dd wont miss the money, it's me that will miss the money .

He won’t take your dd. I doubt he really wants the reality of it.
Cms. Grey rock. Don’t even tell him. Just do it

Travis is correct just contact cms tell them you want them to deal with every thing.
Don't thank him for anything.
Soon your dd will make her own mind up about him.
If he gets funny block his number and setup an email address for the specific purpose of exchanging details about your dd, nothing else.