DS has his bday a few days before mine, so I organised us a joint party at home, i did all the planning, inviting, organising etc. My DP helped the day before and the day of the party. It was yesterday and was great fun. But my actual birthday is today and i assumed he would have something planned. Just a lunch, or a family outing. Nothing. He got me some predictable gifts but i do like them. However its just internet shopping. He didn't take our sons out to get their mum a gift, there was no card with carefully chosen loving words. He even said he was going to spend the arvo at his gym/spa. He didn't, but he moaned that he hasn't been in ages so really should go. On my birthday????!!!! I suggested going out to a light festival this evening but he said HE would be too tired. I didn't say anything but the emotion got to me and i did cry, bit he was quite cranky with me and i clammed up. I later told him that i'm hurt that he didn't organise or want to do anything special. Now we've not spoken all evening and i feel bloody sad.