Male friend has just disappeared

[Sammiejo12]

Evening MN

I recently bumped into an old Male friend out in our local coffee shop and he later contacted me via messenger saying we should meet up... all fine chatted and flirted for a bit over the last 2/3 weeks (I've been away) i then passed my number over but haven't heard anything since... this was a few days ago, we've gone from chatting everyday to nothing.

I haven't contacted him but I'm secretly a bit gutted I haven't heard from him.

Very odd... any ideas?

Had a partner, cane to conclusion it was inappropriate/grew a conscience?

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Erm no I don't think so... I vaguely know his social circle and knew him and his ex broke up last year. He's always been a genuine sort and I've never known him to get into any drama.

Kind of gutted if I'm honest but I mustn't contact him, right?

Actually, in the circumstances you describe I see no problem with messaging ‘Everything ok with you? Fancy a drink on Thursday?’

He’s an old friend, it might go further but a casual invite is, I think just fine.

No don't contact him, if he's interested he'll contact you again.
Perhaps he's sick ?
Or really busy at work?
Perhaps a family member is very ill ?
Good luck OP.

Hard one isn't it, I've been super poorly last few days and he knows this, just bit odd to hear nothing.

I'll give it a couple more days and then maybe message and see if he's ok.

Thank you :)

He's probably letting you get well then. You have to come back and say how it goes though you know?

I'm in a similar boat so...

I hate people who blow hot and cold so this would be a no from me, unless he turned up with the best excuse in the whole world. My husband lost his phone and thereby my number after two dates, so it can happen, but in general, if someone isn't calling you, it's because they aren't into you. Buy 'He's just not that into you', read it and then make yourself available for nicer more consistent men who really are into you!

Ergh it's so hard!

I've practically given up on OLD and an old romantic at heart, I swear 10 years ago dating wasn't this difficult.

I vaguely know his social circle and knew him and his ex broke up last year.

Vaguely knowing his social circle means you wouldn't know if he was in any sort or stage of a relationship, and last year is a while ago now.

Of course maybe it's not that, you mentioned you've been sick (and he knows?) - maybe he has indeed been giving you the chance to recover.

But it could be anything.

It's only a few days, give it more time and then you can decide if you really want to contact him again (but if men are genuinely keen, they tend to get in touch).