Help with Collicky baby (I think)

[kirstywursty012]

I am on week 4 with DD and at the end of my tether. She’s always been pretty unsettled from 6pm - 10pm (lots of squawking whenever we put her down and refusing to sleep) but now she’s started screaming during this time instead.

I don’t understand how it can be colic when we have anti-colic bottles, ensure we do paced feeding and wind her successfully. If she still gets colic after all this then what is the effing point of doing all this?

I’ve tried swaddling, rocking her, pushing her in the pram, white noise, a swing chair and infacol and nothing seems to settle her until she’s worn herself out and me and DH are practically about to murder each other.

My anxiety is through the roof - I dread being left alone with her and not finding any joy in being a new parent at all.

All the threads about colic seem to be advice on coping with it. “Remember it’s not your fault, you’re doing a great job”
This isn’t my feeling at all... It’s just horrible and I’ve never regretted anything more in my life. The worst is people saying they’re easiest when they’re newborn... how on earth can it possibly get worse than this?

Can someone out there say it gets better?

If you are bottle feeding check out a dairy intolerance because it sounds exactly the same as my DG. Her milk was changed and she became a lot happier. She gets it on prescription. It will get easier by the way.

I was literally going to say the same thing. Now on prescribed milk and doing well

People who say the newborn stage is the easiest bit are having a laugh

Look at dairy intolerance and silent reflux. My daughter didn’t have Cmpa but did / does have silent reflux. It was bloody awful. I can tell immediately when she’s too big for her medication even now - she’s on ranitidine - she is whiny, burpy, hiccoughs all the time just not herself. And that’s her at 7 months. As a newborn she was just ... tough. You have my sympathy. Even if it isn’t reflux or CMPA it’s really hard when your baby won’t settle. You’re doing brilliantly

Exactly what others have said - once I knew she had silent reflux and a dairy intolerance it all went away!
It was so, so difficult so you have my unending sympathy! Hope things improve soon x

As others have said - worth considering dairy intolerance, also reflux (might use gaviscon or ranatidine under medical supervision) ... We found (though sometimes you wonder if it's subjective) that Colief drops helped (they can be going prescribed as are quite expensive), also keeping bub upright for as long as possible after feeding; easiest in a sling.

Evening is known as being a difficult time with young babies, they are often very unsettled, might be due to evolution due to being vulnerable when dark is falling/falls but they're not in bed with/close to adults to protect them.

*Gp prescribed

I found infacol, dentinox and whatever the other one was to be next to useless. And I saw studies showing they were as well.

Some people swear by laying the baby down and then raising/straightening up quickly to help with burping too.

*The worst is people saying they’re easiest when they’re newborn... how on earth can it possibly get worse than this?

Can someone out there say it gets better?*

They're not, the newborn stage is industrial level sleep deprivation, which fks you physically and mentally.

I think people say this who have babies who sleep loads and don't have bad colic, but plenty of babies are not like that.

We were given rantidine for the reflux but it does need to be monitored as it needs to be upped as they gain weight.

It does get better on terms of sleep. They also get way more interactive and give a lot more back,case it were.

I think one of reasons people day they're easy when newborn is that they can't run away/you don't have to do run after them!