ive been with my partner for 8 years. one dd. we are engaged.
he is an amazing man in every way. i love him but i dont think im in love with him.
he has put on a lot of weight. sex is uncomfortable. he gets out of breathe. he has big man boobs....god i feel so shallow writing that.
ive gently told him that i dont find him as attractive a while ago. think all ive done is dented his confidence.
ive started doing slimming world but hes not made much of an effort really. i dont want to have to force the issue.
hes started to ask for more sex, hinting all the time and i feel bad so i do it but i dont want to. i find it even hard to kiss him.
im so worried. how am i meant to spend the rest of my life with someone who i dont find attractive....and all the problems it creates in the future. attraction was never a big deal to me before....but its a problem now.
im so worried about losing everything. we own a house together. hes a great dad. loyal. loving....i dont know what to do.
ive tried date nights. romantic films and candles. ive tried all sorts. what do you do in this situation?