Hey you lovely bunch!
I’m new here, always read threads but never joined.
Anyhow, something is really bothering me and I just wanted to put it out there to see whether this is a common thing or I’m just being a tad unreasonable.
So my partner and I have lived together for just over a year now, I have 2 children from a previous relationship and he has 4 (with 2 separate partners).
So the very other weekend thing is actually quite stressful, I’m used to having 2 children in my small house and although we try to spread his weekend with his children out a little it becomes very chaotic when we have a minimum of 4 at a time. I know many of you have more than 2 children but mine are 10 and 8 and kind of got used to my little setup. Anyhow, I knew he has children before we got together, 3 of the children are really easy and laid back, one of them is by his ex wife who has been nothing less than vile to myself, my children and him and I’m having a real issue bonding with his youngest. I hope that I don’t make it obvious but I’m finding myself dreading this particular sleepover night. The child is 6, he swears, continuously makes sexual references and is absolutely NOT anything to what I nor my children have been around before. I really hope this doesn’t make me sound a snob?! Because I couldn’t be further from it!!
Anyhow, the post was originally about how much time you all spend with your partners, husbands etc.
Mine gets up, goes to work at 6am, finishes at 4 and goes to the gym, comes hones around 6pm has dinner, lays in the bath for an hour and then chills out.
Thursdays he is rugby training until 9.30pm after the gym so gets home around 10pm- I don’t see him at all Thursdays.
Every Sunday morning he takes his son (the one I have difficulty with) to rugby from 8.30am until 12 midday and will sometimes stay around for a beer with the rugby boys for an hour or so after.
He will often work on a Saturday too although this has become a little less due to there not being much work but if asked he always says yes.
I’m really feeling like I never see him or get any quality time anymore. I’ve told him how I feel and he just says ‘weekends are our time’ but seriously they’re not, we get one day every other week -if im lucky!
Not to mention he isn’t too phased about ‘bedroom time’ either.
Come on guys is this normal?
For a relationship so young im beginning to feel so neglected.
I do have my own hobbies and run my own business too so I’m very much not dependent so to speak but am feeling like I’m living a single life without the benefits of going anywhere anymore.
Thanks in advance xxx