This is definitely still cheating isn't it?

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Someone I know has been with his gf about a year. For about half of that he was 'actively cheating' ie, having sex with other people. He has now stopped the actual sex but is still messaging other women asking for sex/nude pictures and videos of them that he can wank over. I get this impression that he believes this isn't actually cheating anymore as he doesn't physically meet up with them. It is still cheating though isn't it?

YES

Yes i wouldn't except this. Unless she is fully aware of it all and not bothered, as in consenting than its cheating.

Yes, he is continuing to cheat by seeking sexual thrills outside of their relationship.

Yuk, what a creep!
And yes, it's still cheating

Does she know? I'd find it sad if you and possibly others knew and she didn't. Poor woman..he's a total sleaze-ball....Find a way to tell her.

Well it totally depends on what the agreed boundaries are within their relationship.

This single point seems to be missed by so many people and often results in one party believing that anything less than penis in vagina is fine whilst the other thinks that clicking "Like" on someone's FB/Insta photos is the height of betrayal.

I'm not sure if she knows but I'm 99.9999% sure she doesn't! She gets annoyed when he talks to female friends so I doubt she'd be easy going about that if she knew.

Tell her op. He's probably lodged-up to the eyeballs with all manor of things 🤢

Seriously is there anyone at all who can keep their bits to themselves, am I missing something here???

Mother of mercy

I believe that she has the right to know, so that she can make an informed decision about her life.

A thread like this can only be asking a straw poll NotTheFordType so the question is do you think he is cheating or not?

I say yes.

Yes it's more a question of whether the majority would consider it cheating and what you would deem acceptable within the 'normal' parameters of a relationship. I know it wouldn't be ok for me!

Yes it bloody is.
Who are you to her/him?
If she is a friend then tell her.

He is a friend of a friend. She is nothing to me and tbh I don't have much sympathy for her - her bf cheated on his long term gf to be with her so I guess it's a kind of karma. I think she wouldn't believe anyone who told her anyway, she thinks the sun shines out his arse but that doesn't make what he is doing ok.

@Closetbeanmuncher funnily enough he did have not one but 2 STI's! That should have made it obvious what he's been up to but somehow he's managed to explain it away.

If you have to hide it, it's not OK.

I can’t imagine anyone saying this isn’t cheating. But what can you do, she’s not your friend, unfortunately she’ll learn at some point