I've observed this trend with men, especially narcissistic men but perhaps men in general..
Every man I've dated will be one who has obsessively chased after me to be with me (i.e. he'd have made the first move), done the whole woo-ing, told me how "surprised they are that I'm single/available", how "perfect" I am etc.. and not to be shallow, but these men were not out of my league or better than me in any way.
I got straight A's in all subjects at school, have 2 degrees, kind to everyone, witty (I've been told by many people), have a highly respectable job, not obsessively clingy at all, lively, outgoing, can hold an intellectual conversation, told I'm pretty facially and size 8 body with DD bra size, can cook, mid-20s, can drive etc. Main default weaknesses I can think of myself is that I'm kinda nervous (talk quickly, etc) but not shy at all and I'm quite small-framed (very narrow shoulders, below average height etc.)
^ NOT that any of these things are vital for a relationship at all but just saying I'm not awful lol.
The men I've dated have often been nearly a decade older (mid-30s) but some only a few years older, they weren't as skilled academically, nor as highly educated, nor in such a respectable job. They were nice looking facially I thought but wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea (as with most people except really gorgeous guys), mostly had very average bodies, drink quite a lot, etc. (not to be rude/judgmental but just trying to build up a picture for you)
Most of them I've dated would initiate every day's text conversation and date idea (I'd never need to text them first as they'd send the first text by 5am when they get up already daily) yet what irks me is that the concept of introducing to their friends or families has never crossed their mind. I've never asked to specifically be invited to meet their families nor have I introduced mine but every time a rship ends, it is so obvious with the next girl, they've introduced her to their sisters, brothers and parents within a few months (judging by facebook adds on their profile), whereas I wouldn't have even met any family member despite being with them up to a year.
Is this primarily because:
1)I'm lacking something not worthy of showing off/ashamed(due to e.g being a bit nervous and fairly petite/small framed) or
2) I didn't ever introduce them to my family or friends so they assumed I wouldn't want to meet theirs either (perhaps these girls introduced their families to the guy before he did? Not sure but I do know the women had introduced their friends to the guy) or
3) because I don't ever ask or express the desire to meet his family (whereas the next woman might have?) or
4) They simply don't think I'm the "one" or worth introducing (but if that's the case, why does every guy I've dated introduce the exact next one to his family (the next one is usually women older than me and even older than the guy by 3 or so years but I don't think I act particularly immaturely), and probably the ones before me were introduced as well..!
oh and ironically, whilst the guy is with the women they introduce to their family, they'll still continue initiating convos with me (his ex, where
I broke up with him) and try to get me back, pretend they're single, etc
I just don't get it that this happens every time..
Any help in trying to understand what might be the main cause would be very appreciated (although I know it's very hard to diagnose on an online forum)