Hi all
Me and my gf recently broke up. We were together three years. It was really good, although towards end of last year things started to slip.
We seemed to become increasingly frictioned between the two of us, we would text and fall out quite a lot, silly petty little things that could of easily been dealt with through talk. I tried to talk to her face to face but unfortunately it was quite a struggle to do so. She seemed to talk better through text. Last year she wondered wether we would ever get back to the way it used to be. She said she doesn't know if she's happy anymore and I also agreed things weren't great but I truly beleieved all we had to do was see more of eachother and it wouldn't get better. She didn't really believe it and we even had a few days of no contact for her to think things through. I know what I wanted. After no contact she still didn't know what she wanted. She said she didn't want to waste all the things we had built up. I managed to convince her to have some quality time together and boom, it worked we were back to how we were. It was brilliant. She admitted she had made a mistake and that she ebelieved we could be good.
Before this and after it was me asking to do stuff all the time. Most of the time around Xmas she would say she's busy or I would ask her to do stuff, she said she'd let me know but I would have to ask again. Burn other times she would be like the old her, she asked me to do stuff, which we did, she would come on days out. I just don't get it. Then again she would blow cold. I asked her if she wanted to be with me. She would get defensive and state she has never said that she doesn't. But if I think that and she's making me unhappy then maybe I'm no good for her. This went on for a while, until I suddenly stopped putting in the effort. She said she keeps getting things wrong and that's she's sorry and make more of an effort. I was at such a low point, I said I've tried to make things work, I did make things work, then somehow it just slipped again. We both then decided to end it. I know she had some personal problems going on and although she wouldn't really tell me I do believe everything became clouded and she couldn't see the wood for the trees. I only wish she would of allowed me to show her more quality time together. After the break up, I felt really bad, I do truly love this girl and I sent her a quick note telling her I'm sorry we broke up, that I thought we had got back good again and if she ever needs anything she knows where I am. I also said in a few months we may see things clearer.
She then replied to me, which i wasn't expecting saying, in a few months who knows, that she thanks me for the Good times, and that if I ever need to talk just get in touch.
I repleeid with a thanksyou and reiterated she knows where I am.
She then replied again! Saying thankyou, so I quickly replied, no problem.
She then text me again wishing me a good day which was unexpected so I wished her back and said speak soon.
I want to give her space.
In my mind I want her back. But reading above do you think she's gone? Am I trying to convince myself there is a chance when ultimately she feels nothing.
I just don't know please help.