To think you should be able to rely on OH for support

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I made a mistake that cost us a little bit financially £1,000 and I was embarrassed about it. I asked my husband to keep it between us as I was feeling upset and silly and didn't want everyone knowing but he went and told his family about it .
I feel deeply hurt by him but he says I've no right to as I made the mistake. It has no impact on his family whatsoever and was between me and him. He's done stuff in the past that's upset/annoyed me too but I don't go off telling my parents as I wouldn't like them to think any less of him over something that seems like a big deal at the time.

Well that's a tricky one... I mean I personally think that preventing a partner from talking about their concerns to other people can be abusive and unhealthy... BUT it generally is not a good idea to involve close family in marital problems as it undermines the relationship and does tend to cause more issues than it helps... especially when it's one sided like you've said..
I think faults on both sides here though.

It is something very trivial that I will be able to laugh about in time to come just not yet

It’s a bit of a betrayal, j wouldn’t like it. When DH had an op he thought was embarrassing he asked me not to say anything, not that I would have.

The issue here I think is twofold. First he did something deliberately that you had asked him not to do and second why is he speaking to his family about private matters? Are they really enmeshed?

Will there be any comeback from his family? I would tell your DH that you won’t share information that is not strictly necessary with him anymore as you cannot trust him to ridicule you.

Plus, ask him about the enmeshment. Was he punished as a child if he didn’t spill all to mummy?

I think you should expect some level of privacy, yes. It’s not like you’re trying to control him.

So you asked him to keep a secret. Did he say he wouldn’t blab and then tell all or was he up front?