What can be done about a jealous ex wife?!?!

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What can be done about a jealous ex wife with no boundaries on how to take you down??

In some ways I'm seriously hoping there are some of you out there in the same position as me to see there is light at the end of the tunnel, but then again I don't want anyone else to have to go through this!

My partner and I have been together nearly 3 years and he has been split from his ex for nearly 7 years. The only way he could see his little boy was if he did a 3 hour car journey to where he was living and stay in a hotel for the weekend which was not only costly but meant his little boy couldn't become part of his family properly here with us and his grand parents.

When my partner started his divorce process and asked his ex to meet half way so that the little one could spend time in our family home she completely cut contact for them both, that includes phone calls, for over 6 months!!

We applied to go to court to get a child order to stop her controlling everything and get something official to restart contact and what happened next I have never heard before!!!

She told the courts she had no choice but to stop contact as I was mentally insane and that her child was not safe around me. She said a Section 7 report had to be done before she'd allow me around the child and that's why she stopped contact. I work with children every day for a living so was absolutely mortified at the lies she told about me to the court, apparently sharing beds with children etc.

When I was young I lost my Father who was ill for only 6 months then died. After his death his girlfriend threw me out and I was left with no home but also nothing to remember him by. I went to the NHS for a year of counselling but continued to work with children but this was the basis of her accusations....

Several months later ready for our second court case the CAFCASS report came in and myself and my partner were mortified. Even though they had had all the evidence from the NHS saying I had been for x amount of sessions and was now discharged because she told the welfare officer I only went once the report ruled I was not safe alone around children for long periods and that my mental health was only going to deteriorate!

She then went on to say my other half had mental health problems and once again the CAFCASS officer sided with her based on no evidence whatsoever.

We have to deal with abusive emails and texts from her on a daily basis and her reporting us to the DVLA to try and take our driving licenses off us constantly but we have no idea what we can do about it?!

I expecting a baby soon so firstly do not need this stress but also ridiculously worried as soon as she finds this out will do everything she can to meddle and try and get my baby taken off me.

Any one have any advice on what we can do please?!?!?!?

When we received the report the cafcass officer said if there were any factual inaccuracies to let them know straight away so it could be altered.

We got back in touch and told them they had been misinformed in regards to myself and sent them the proof of my discharge letter etc from the NHS and this is the response we had.

" I did not have sight of the recent correspondence you have provided from the NHS saying they are ending their involvement. Although this may have been useful it would not have altered the final recommendations."

So we are deffo going to take it further.

She has moved so many times as she has lost jobs due to falling out with people and trying to order people about above her station. Every where she has lived has been hours from us and although some people find this hard to believe as most assume the man in aggressive she has shouted, hit and spat at my partner on several occasions. None of her own family have anything to do with her and we can not put up with the abusive nature from her anymore. Its such a shame that CAFCASS seem to have been totally manipulated by her.

Yes i only had counselling but on her witness report she has accused myself and my partner of disgusting things and with no proof it has been put in the report which they also said they wouldn't remove as " the views and statements of your ex wife we would not count as ‘factual errors’ so it would not be possible to amend the report for these" even though none of our views were mentioned at all its so one sided.

Op, it's hard to undesatsmd this. Why was the documentation sent to cafcass after the final recommendations? And what has she accused you of doing?

It does feel like there is a whole part of this missing.

What cafcas are saying is the letter from the nhs would not change their final decision and that they wish to add her views on you both to the report for balance.

Did you interact with them through the process?

And who told her about your childhood and mental health treatment?