Why would my H delete messages and lie

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Message popped up from a female friend of my H. I said to H what did friend have to say? He deleted the message immediately and told me he was in a text chat with her and his sister. I hate to say I checked with his sister and he lied. I'm not wrong to have an issue with a husband who lies and a husband that deletes messages from female friends am I?

Ps he has form for inappropriate boundaries and I'm now being accused of being unreasonable.

You are not wrong. Clearly he's crossing boundaries here, probably sexting by sounds of it.
What are you going to do?

Definitely something going on. Time to start fishing.

He wants to protect this woman. He is prioritizing her.

He's protecting himself. And prioritizing you not finding out what's he's up to by lying and deleting. He obviously can't be trusted and without trust you have a crap relationship, even if he wasn't cheating, but he more than likely is.

Why would my H delete messages and lie

Anyone (including you) can answer this question without even reading your post.

Answer: because there is something in the messages that he does not want you to see and he's lying because there is something he does not want you to know the truth about.

You know this is the answer. We know this is the answer. A 10 year old child could tell you this is the answer.

Take if from there.