I need the wisdom of the hive mind, please!

[Alondonleerie]

Apologies if you have read about this before, as I posted the other day. This is a tangent from that...
My dh, while on deployment in a nice city elsewhere, had a few beers, and ended up walking along holding hands with a woman who worked for him, walking to a bar. He said she had initiated it, but now admits he doesn't actually remember that, he said it because he thought that was the most likely scenario.
I cannot think of any circumstances in which I would make a move to hold my bosses hand, it's highly inappropriate on a number of levels. He reckons it must have been as a result of some joke or stupid comment, but I really can't think of anything? Can you?

I didn't ask this q before sofa.

Read your other thread too.
Hand in hand with a member of one's staff is just wrong.
Unprofessional at the very least.
You need to wake up and smell the coffee OP.

No. I would not accept DH holding another woman's hand. There is no reason for it.

However, come to think of it, I used to hold hands with friends all of the time in my 20's. But I'm now 45 and DH is 37. So, doing that now would be really really weird and inappropriate.

Unless you are 17-26, then I would say no. And, even mid late 20's is unusual except if he is really really demonstrative (I was like this too when I was younger, would cuddle with friends, play with hair) and if he is really really young emotionally, (which I was too, but I'm an Aspie and we are notorious for having very low EQ's and taking forever to grow up) then I would say it could be that.

That said, you would not be on MN if you knew that your husband was the latter, so unfortunately, I would say the former.

I'm really sorry.

There is no scenario where this would be appropriate OP.
You are trying to find a reason to forgive him which is understandable but you can't bend reality. If I remember your other thread he's done it before, how likely is it that he won't do it again?

Nc, this is the same incident I am referring to. Originally, I'd asked if it was appropriate, or something similar. Following conversion with him, in which he'd said he assumes it was prompted to some silly comment or joke, I wondered if anyone could come up with such a situation. Because I couldn't, but then again, I'm not the wittiest individual, and I don't think I'd ever make a move to hold my bosses hand! I'm assuming there's someone out there who is pretty confident in themselves, who gets on very well with their boss, who would disagree. There usually is.

He's cheated before, now he's holding hands with a colleague while "too drunk to remember".
I know this must be really hard for you but ask yourself, can you trust your husband?
That is the bottom line. I don't think you can and that is no way to live.