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Do I tell her?

19 replies

tinaandsal · 21/02/2019 22:59

I'm 35 and I've developed feelings for a woman (she's lesbian )
She knows I'm straight (or was/is )
I get vibes she finds me attractive,we get on well and she got pretty close on one occasion.
The thing is she knows I'm straight.
Do I tell her I fancy her?
Or do I wait and see if she asks me out?
But if she doesn't know I'm into her will she ask me out if she does actually like me?
Any advice?

OP posts:
spugzbunny · 21/02/2019 23:02

Tell her! What have you got to lose?

Doyouavocado · 21/02/2019 23:05

Tell her!

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 21/02/2019 23:15

I am married to a woman and was a person who had only ever had relationships with men. We met 12 yrs ago tomorrow and married 3 yrs ago (thankyou to that backbencher David Cameron) and I can’t think of a person I’d rather spend time with. Don’t worry about gender just go for the person who makes your heart sing. Hope that helps.

legohouse · 21/02/2019 23:17

Amazing.... just go for it!

Original poster
tinaandsal · 21/02/2019 23:19

I know I have zero to loose.
I've been waiting hoping she makes a move but that isn't going to get my anywhere is it?

OP posts:
category12 · 21/02/2019 23:57

No it's not. If she never makes a move, are you going to regret not doing so yourself?

Had a thread on here once about someone in a similar situation who didn't say anything, and the out lesbian started dating someone else and so she missed her chance and she was kicking herself.

wheresthehope · 22/02/2019 00:00

Tell her!!! And come back to update us! Wink

Original poster
tinaandsal · 22/02/2019 11:35

Knowing my luck that would happen to me.
I'm gonna ask her for a drink or something then go from there.

OP posts:
Maybeitsjustmeor · 22/02/2019 11:37

Good luck!

category12 · 22/02/2019 11:39

Yay! Good luck.

CatpissEverdine · 22/02/2019 16:17

Go for it. I told mine. She was with someone. That person left and now she is going out with me and she's lovely. Never slept with a girl before. It's much better than previous experiences with men

sammyboyf · 22/02/2019 19:17

@CatpissEverdine wow really great news
I've never been massively into men really
Think deep down I've always fancied women

sammyboyf · 22/02/2019 19:17

How do I go about flirting with a woman?
The same as a man?

sammyboyf · 22/02/2019 19:18

(I've name changed from my real name just incase she's on here )

sammyboyf · 22/02/2019 19:18

(Ah just realised changing my name makes no difference as my original name still stands ..bugger) 🤣

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 22/02/2019 23:30

Yes same as a man only it’s sexier. I found flirting with my wife (12 years ago today on our first ever date) much easier than flirting with men. Was just more natural.

CatpissEverdine · 23/02/2019 18:34

The same. It's amazing really how much more comfortable I feel with a woman

importantkath · 23/02/2019 18:57

Do tin

importantkath · 23/02/2019 18:58

Do it! Not do tin. Ducking autocorrects

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