NC as don't want to be outed on the TTC thread.
DP (46) has 2 DC from previous marriage, age both under 7. TTC 2 years. We had a MC Oct 2017.
I (38) have PCOS (diagnosed 10 years ago) we were given an IVF referral option in May 2018 - I had all the tests the GP does, DP did not go for his bloods/ swimmers test, said 'lets wait 6 months, get as healthy and fit as possible to ensure the best chance of it working'.
November 2018 came around and he said that 'we' hadn't made any effort to get healthier (We are both a normal weight/non-smokers etc). He said that if I really wanted a baby I would have committed to getting in better shape. I asked him to have his tests done, so that we can get i the system. He refuses.
It seems the goal posts continue to move. DP is now saying that he feels too old and maybe we should just see what happens naturally. I am an active and involved Step mum and have a great relationship with his DC. He seems to think that should be enough.
I can feel myself withdrawing from him because now i question whether he has been stringing me along since day one. I'm 39 next months. I love him, I love the DSC. I don't want to be without them, but I feel so lost/sad/angry.
Sorry so long, waffly.