Reading between the lines

[Shakac]

Hi

I posted on here for the first time on Monday in an attempt to understand what has happened to me recently.

Just remembering something my ex said a few days before she left.

She said ‘please I got to do this even if only for 6 months. Knowing my luck I’ll want to come back and you’ll have moved on’.

At the time I chose not to challenge this statement but I am confused and unsure how to interpret it.

It means "will you be my backup plan, preferably put your life on hold in case what I'm trying doesn't work"

Sounds like he maybe needed some space to clear his head for awhile, but he's still deeply in love with you.

She was waiting for you to say 'oh no, I won't have moved on', so she knows she has a safety net. Hopefully you didn't say that.

She’s quite insultingly saying that if it doesn’t work out with someone else, then she’ll end up coming back to you, and hoping you’ll see that as a compliment. She’s showing you that you are not your priority and for your sake you need to move on and not be there waiting for her - she would only leave again down the road.

What’s that saying? Don’t make someone your first choice when you are just an option to them? Something like that.

Time to move on! Onwards and upwards!

I didn’t say anything because I had already told her previously that once she walked out the door there was no coming back.

Yes it would appear I am seen by her as a safety net.

She’s clearly not a nice person.

I think your right. One evening I was trying to talk to her from the kitchen whilst she was in the bedroom. Realising it would be better to go to the bedroom I walked in whilst she was on phone.

She says ‘i’m on the phone’ I said sorry but noted she refused to continue the convo in my presence.

I pretended to leave the room but was ear wigging and her ask him what time he started work the next day...The bit that made me realise there was someone else involved was her enquiring whether a sandwich was enough for him. Her tone was one of genuine care. One that she use to have for me.

I challenged her once the phone call was over and she said it’s blah blah and he’s being helping me out with my move.

She then left to take things to her new flat but didn’t return in the normal time span by which time I was asleep.

You're clutching at straws Shakac. Seriously time to move on.

Yes I do need to move on.

Each passing day I find I am coming back.