He's just not that into me is he?

[Zebloram]

I can't see clearly on this one so any advice would be great.

Me single 7 years, him single 4 years. Both in 40s, both single parents.

We met 2 weeks ago and he's been in touch very sporadically since and is very flirty but it never gets as far as him actually asking me out. He didn't make contact for 3 days lately and today I've had a missed call off him (I was driving so couldn't answer). I rang back, no answer, texted, no answer and now it's 4 hours later and nothing.

I'm seriously keen and I suspect he knows it.

Block and move on or just chill out? Or any other advice.

Be harsh, I can take it!

Step back. Play it cool. Don't contact him. If he contacts you, you can go out with him but play it cool still.

Personally I couldn't be arsed, though! If he wants you, he'll let you know. He hasn't let you know, ergo he doesn't want you (enough.)

Where did you meet him?

I would just chill, don't take it seriously.

Maybe he was driving? Maybe he can't get to the phone. Balls in his court. Dont block but don't initiate further contact

I met him at a friends party. We spent a long time talking. We both don't drink so no drunken bollocks going on.

He has hands free in his car so could take a call if he wanted.

Yeah, ball's definitely in his court so I won't contact again.

I'm always wary in situations like this.
Go with your gut, but no need to block

In my opinion, the communication in good relationships is straight forward. Either he's out of the country, lying ill in a hospital bed, has a family emergency or he's not that in to you.

And the problem with that otherwise good film (He's not that into you) and that she ends up with him in the end, undermining the whole plot!

Agree just don't do anything. He tried to call and now has missed call and text from you. He knows how to use a phone so if he wants to reach you he can.

I do think though having only. Known each other two weeks and you haven't even asked him out, that "he didn't message me for 3 days" is a bit overkill. Just. Relax.

If he wants to call you back he knows where you are, don’t chase anymore.

As above - don't contact him.

I hear you all. I will try to unclench, relax and I won't contact him again.

Thanks.

Wide move OP. Not worth sweating the small stuff

Wise even

Oh my god 2 weeks!
Seriously chill out.
It would be very freaky if he were calling you every day at this stage, seriously.

I would chill a bit. I mean u only met him 2 weeks ago... I'd be freaked out by anything more than maybe a call or two during that time n a little texting here and there maybe. (And ideally most of that would be to ask me out n arrange a time). I certainly wouldn't want someone I just met to be in contact every day and 3 days with no communication isn't a big deal.

That being said, if a guy doesn't ask me out and strings me along for too long, I just ask him out. Can't be passed with all that over the phone/internet blether n waiting about. Im like - Cut to the chase dude! XD

If he hasn't asked you out, he's just not that into you. Stop with the chasing behaviour and see what happens.

You need to chill. Mobile phones mean people think everyone is permanently contactable, which I find really annoying. It's been 4 hours!

Ask him out! Then you’ll know. And can put all the angsting aside, one way or the other.

(But, don’t listen to me, I’m insanely reckless.)

Two weeks? 3 days without contact is really nothing.
You missed a call from him and you've called and text him, and now fretting because 4 hours later still nothing. Seriously need to chill out. I'm feeling smothered just reading it.

I agree mobile phones make me feel people are permanently contactable. I've give myself a good talking to and realise I need to chill out.

I'm a very lonely single mother and I've been thinking a mile-a-minute ahead when I shouldn't be.

You've all helped. Thank you!