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Original poster

So fed up with my OH

16 replies

witteringmum · 20/02/2019 17:47

Not sure if I'm being unreasonable. OH has taken a day off this week so we could go away for a night. He hasn't booked anything as he said he'd prefer to go where fancied in the day. But now the day before he tells me we are no longer going ad he doesn't want to spend the time with me. Am I being unreasonable by being upset??

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2019willbegreat · 20/02/2019 17:49

No. Dick move. Any more info 're why he doesn't want to spend time with you?

WorraLiberty · 20/02/2019 17:50

More info needed really

What were his reasons?

Tennesseewhiskey · 20/02/2019 17:50

Why doesn't he want to spend any of it with you?

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witteringmum · 20/02/2019 17:53

He thinks I make everything too sressful.

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spugzbunny · 20/02/2019 17:55

Who knows with this level of detail to be honest!

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witteringmum · 20/02/2019 17:59

I like place to be clean and tidy. This is not priority for him. I'm busy with children taking them where they need to be, he thinks this is too much stress. He portrays it as though by telling me to do less he is being supportive but I don't find that the case. Today I came back from taking kids to dentist and got on with some household jobs and he said I was making the house too stressful, hence deciding he doesn't want to go away.

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EthelHornsby · 20/02/2019 18:02

I think you could reduce the stress in your life by removing him from it

lifegoes · 20/02/2019 18:57

@EthelHornsby that's the best post. And I 100% agree

NameChangeNugget · 20/02/2019 19:07

You sound unsuited.

This is why, if I was single, I’d never date anyone without children

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witteringmum · 20/02/2019 19:12

They're his children!!

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Sunshineandflipflops · 20/02/2019 19:16

He sounds horrible.
My ex husband’s response to me being stressed about having so much to do around the house as well as having two kids and a f/t job was to tell me to “leave it” or that he’d “do it later”...both of which didn’t help or support me.
Have you told him you need him to pull his weight so that you can be less stressed?

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witteringmum · 20/02/2019 19:49

Thank you. Thinking I'm probably right in feeling he's being unfair. Just leaves me now with lots more questions.

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Coolaschmoola · 20/02/2019 19:51

He has the day off... Good, leave him with the children and take yourself for a night away.

Relax, watch tv, drink wine, get room service - and let him see how stressful three kids are!

dragonsfire · 20/02/2019 19:52

Does he help around the house at all?

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witteringmum · 20/02/2019 19:55

Helps sometimes- but on his terms. Would never do anything I asked him to. In fact he always tells me how I do housework wrong and that he has better systems. I just get on and do he spends hours planning.

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nicenewdusters · 20/02/2019 20:15

Sounds like the main source of stress in your life is him.

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