Last Boxing Day (2018) my oldest daughter (OD) and middle daughter (MD) went out a Club in town together. Later on the night, I was called to come and pick them both up as Uber was going to cost them too much to get home. They both had too much to drink and when I got there, MD did not want to get in the car. Through my persistence, I asked OD to get MD from inside the Club. Things happened at the venue and it got out of hand. To cut the story short, they both got into a physical fight whilst I was there. It got so bad that security got involved to break them up. During the fight OD slapped MD across the face twice. Whilst at the time, I believed this to be an accident, but MD kept telling me that OD did it on purpose. By this stage, MD is angry with OD and have stopped talking to her. This carries on for a few more days, when OD came over feeling miserable about what have happened. OD have apologised to MD on many occasions vis text, but have not had any response back and also feel very remorseful. Through conversation about this situation, OD then tells me that she slapped MD on purpose and can not explained why. After I found out about this, I also apologised to MD for not believing her. I also apologised to MD that this fight happen because I was the cause of it as well. If OD and I had gone home instead of me being persistent, they would not have got into a fight. After the fight, MD have decided not to talk or allow OD to contact her in any way. Even though I have talked to MD many times about OD sincerity if her action and feels very remorseful and apologetic of her actions, MD do not want to have anything to do with her. If MD is in the same room as OD, she would not give her the light of day and will not acknowledge her in any way...not even to say "hello". Whilst all this is going on, my youngest daughter (YD) is trying not to take sides. I have told my YD the situation to ensure that she is kept in the loop and ensure her health and well being is not affected. At the moment, OD misses MD a lot...ie. the conversations they used to have; the last minutes text to going somewhere but most all their sisterhood.... :'( :'(
Now as a parent, how can I fix this rift or should I?? Should I let it ride and allow MD more times to evaluate this situation and allow her assess this on her own?? Or should I have another talk with MD and get her to understand OD's feelings?? I feel the longer I leave it, the harder it will be to fix and amend.