The script

[shouldidoitornot]

Hi

My dh has been having an affair.

I'm Not discussing this or what I'm doing, but can anyone let me know 'the script' please?

Both the script for during the affair and for afterwards.

I want to see what a cliche he really is!

Thanks

It was for attention, he never felt wanted. He didn't mean it, you didn't give him the attention, he didn't feel needed, She meant nothing to him, it was all sex, she's a nutcase, she's a liar.

He's sorry, he won't happen again. He only wants you, you are the love of his life, he's lost without you, he's made a huge mistake.

Here you go

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1634754-Men-affairs-what-is-the-script

Sorry if you scroll down that link from another poster you will see the script

OR he's been unhappy for ages, he loves you but he's not in love with you, she makes him feel important, needed, special. She has time for him and you just nag about domestic crap. He promises to look after you / the kids, he won't be a dick about money, division of assets or sharing childcare, you secretly knew for ages that it was over and any distress you are feeling now is unfair to put on him, how dare you spoil his happy bubble.. You always do this which is why it's all your fault this happened and so.. (in a few weeks) I'll not pay you a penny, you can't expect me to do anything except two days a fortnight with the kids, I WORK, and I expect you to do all the childcare and parenting and work full time and I will still complain about not getting more than 50% of assets. That sort of thing... 🙄

Brilliant (or not )

Thank you.

Sorry, that sounded sarcastic. It wasn't meant to. I do mean thank you.

Pretty much covered by the above.
During the affair - excuses - working late, business trip, new sports hobby (so they can shower) having a secret phone, changing passwords etc.
On discovery -
Denial (we're just friends) which becomes minimising (we only kissed, did it once etc) and then admitting it, but it was all your fault because you didn't meet his needs.
Sorry you're going through this OP. You are not alone.

Also they will only admit to what you have concrete proof of.

It was nothing, it was sex only, your the only one to love me. I’ve made a mistake

I believed that the OW was a liar and that it was sex only. So I forgave him, found out 10 months after she had been telling the truth about everything. He’d also had another affair that I was told about but had no proof. That turned out to be true.

They will lie about anything and everything to get you to believe them. It’s your fault, OW fault, his mothers fault but NOT theirs.