Struggling to move on

[lifegoes]

Some advice really, I've started therapy recently due to an awful end of a relationship.

I've posted previously about it, overview.

I fell hard for a man, I thought he was the one. I didn't trust my gut and later found out he was happily married.

The contact ended abruptly with him and I'm struggling as there's been no apology from him, just abuse for ruining his family.

I started therapy as it's coming to light I was badly manipulated, gaslighted, lied to, used throughout our relationship.

I'm just looking for advice on how do you move on with no closure and being blamed for something that wasn't your fault at all. I don't know why I expect an apology from him. But I feel I can't close the door.

Pathetic I know (hence the therapy)

That’s where I am without closure. However you should concentrate on learning to love yourself again.

Join a salsa class or find an activity to fulfill your time.

Good luck i’m Sure you’ll be fine once you give yourself time to heal.

Thank you @Shakac I'm really trying to fill my time and I'm hoping the therapy will help.

It's just awful that I've been left to feel so awful and he's living his life as he's done nothing wrong.

I think you need to keep telling yourself that the person your thought he was, the lovely man you were falling in love with, wasn't true. On the one hand it was an act, he was pretending, but also, it was in your head, it was what you wanted to see. He is not that man. In fact not only is he not the charming man you hoped for but he is a lying cheating twat of a man.

Shakac is right. Fill your time with activities, meet some new people. Take up an exercise.

You are way better than this man. Don't waste anymore time grieving over the loss of what you didn't have.

@fruitbrewhaha that's very true. He was never the man I thought he was. It was a mask to get what he wanted. A mask so I didn't see the real truth.

I hate that I feel, he's destroyed me, I've lost who I was as a person.

I don't think I'll ever grasp how anyone can act like this towards people and feel absolutely no remorse for their actions.

I just wish the pain would go away.