Life's just become a lot more difficult

[Aimee89]

I could do with some advice ladies.
My DD is 17 months old, me and her father broke up a good while ago but we are still figuring out the co parenting thing given the reason we broke up was his total lack of support, chauvinist ways and bullying
it's been a struggle to get any real commitment.
The issue I have now is that I've recently being seeing someone that has real potential to last and I'm positive it will. I am however pregnant which is something I hadn't intended and has completely thrown me. My partner wants to keep the baby given we're both 30 and both got fertility issues but I'm unsure timing couldn't be anymore worse and I'm frightened how it will impact on my daughter and her father and his family who are heavily involved. I'm frightened the relationship is too new regardless of how positive I am about it, I just don't know if I'm strong enough to handle what would come my way.

How long have you been seeing the new partner?

Is your ex dating anyone?

In theory, who you see and sleep with has NOTHING to do with your ex or his family. However, in reality, if he's been unreliable so far anyway, he may use it as an excuse to rock the boat.

Am slightly confused by the 'impact on your daughter' comment; surely she will just have a sibling to play/fight with?

How does your new partner treat your DD?

You say your new partner wants to keep the baby. What do you want?

Do you want a sibling for your child? Do you want to build a life with the man you are with now? Then go for it. There will be minimum impact on your child and your ex-partner can still co-parent your child, there shouldn't be a problem. Are you expecting the ex to behave badly when he finds out you have well and truly moved on?

I've been with my new partner for 6 months, my ex however doesn't know I've moved on yet. My ex isn't exactly the most rational of person he's very immature. I'm worried he'll use it against me and maybe spite our daughter because of it.

My new partner has everything going for him and I very much want to build a life with him as does he with me. He's aware of the issues we'll face announcing all of this as am I, and he still wants us to be a family with the new baby. He's fantastic with my daughter dedicates so much time and attention to her.
And she clearly has a good bond with him. I'm torn for thinking about what others will think as well as my own family but also concerned about this being too early for us.

When did you split up with your ex, is that the one you were living with?

Me and my ex had been living together I had to find my own place with my daughter as he wouldn't go back to his parents knowing I don't have any family to go back to