Here is a sad warning about getting your own way....
Newly married, persuaded hubby to have a family.
Forty years later, now a father and grandfather I have constantly been unable to involve him in family life. He grudgingly “did his duty” as he saw it until they were adults but then virtually cut them out. Our children, Grandchildren too, he no interest at all in them, they are ignored or occasionally tolerated if they “dare” to come over to the family home, trying to involve him in family life results in stonewalling.
My point is this, whilst I have so much to be thankful for, my gorgeous children and many grandchildren, I am in essence alone when experiencing this, there is no sense of shared achievement with my spouse, pride etc, I’m alone in my happiness and pride in my family and this isn’t what I envisioned my life to be.
And maybe he is right, I shouldn’t have forced the isssue of having a family as all he ever wanted was me apparently 🤦♀️