In the context of an explanation as to why there is a string of cosy messages between dh and a woman he worked with, but apparently didn't actually spend time alone with, while working away. They did spend time together in a group (although could have been in a corner together, who knows), and hung around together on an arranged sightseeing trip. And when she mentioned wanting to do some day drinking, he said he'd join her (no mention of anyone else by either of them). She had asked his advice on sightseeing trips, then given him a rundown of what she'd seen - along the lines of:
"I saw a tortoise :). "
"and a bird"
"and a goose"
Yes... In seperately texts. And pics of her cocktails in a bar, on two different occasions, one of which was accompanied by text along the lines of " better than your Starbucks!", so she knew where he'd gone, and was... What?... Saying it was better with her? I dunno.
Gossipy texts about new work mates, which continued after they got home again from deployment, after hours when he should have been interacting with his wife and kids.
No overtly flirty stuff, but much more than two ppl who didn't spend any amount of time together, I would have thought. Which is what I pointed out. And finally, today he says, " I buttered her up, telling her how great she was when she filled a gap in a roster" and other things, that are surely just part of the job description. He hadn't mentioned any aspect of their relationship like that, led me to believe they had little to do with each other, which is why the tone of the messages seemed at odds to what he was describing. He also said he responded positively to her first message, and they enjoyed it, so continued.
What would your interpretation of this be?